He put SD7 on the phone, I rolled my eyes and faked happiness

Yesterday DH was taking SD7 to a doctor's appointment. I was talking to him, happy to talk to him...and then he puts SD7 on the phone to talk to me. I roll my eyes and exhale sharply, because I don't want to talk to her, I want to talk to my husband. She just says hi, but not much else. I ask normal questions you ask a 7 year old after a doctor's appointment...pretending to care. But she was giving me short, choppy answers and I didn't really want to talk to her anyway.

I felt a little bit of guilt pretending to care. But I am tired of her and her lies. It has gotten so that I have no influence on her whatsoever and her interest and love for me is no longer genuine. Her BM is teaching her how to be manipulative. DH can't see it ALL the time, but he's starting to see it too.

Am I a bad person for not wanting my conversation with DH to be interrupted? lol

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Don't feel guilty. Sometimes

Don't feel guilty. Sometimes pretending is survival in the step world. I really don't have much drama with the skids, but that doesn't mean I want to talk to them on the phone.

Sd13 always wanted to talk to me when I was on the phone with the hubby. I finally told him, sweetie I really enjoy talking to you and when we are talking I really don't want to take time from our discussion to talk to sd13. So please do not pass the phone to her when we are on the phone.

I have not had a problem since. I hope this works for you.

My DH used to do this with my

My DH used to do this with my SD and it drove me nuts. I would call if they were running errands and he would have her answer the phone. In fairness, he doesn't like to talk on the phone and he would do it to anyone that called (MIL, FIL), but I didn't/still don't want to talk to SD or relay messages to DH through SD. I would always say hi, could you please put your father on the phone please immediately after she answered. He would also have SD write notes and leave them, Like we went to the library. In her really bad handwriting and bad spelling for a kid that was in jr. high. I was always thinking, this isn't my kid, I don't think her notes are cute and I don't care to communicate through the kid like you and BM do. Anyways once it high school she started handing with a bad crowd, dropped out to do drugs and live with her boyfriend and we haven't had contact in nearly a year and sparsely for the past 4 years, so now I don't have to deal with her answering the phone or leaving notes for DH. }:)

1: If I want to talk you your

1: If I want to talk you your kid I will ask you.
2: Do not hand your phone over to someone else without introducing the person first. It is rude and embarrassing ..."Here, 'someone' wants to talk to you.."
3: Do not chew on food or burp in my ear while on the phone.
4: If I know you are driving I will hang up. Sorry, no one is THAT important that it is necessary to slow down other traffic while talking to me. Yes I am awesome. But call me when you are not pissing off other people.
5: Introduce yourself when you call. My Sis IL (Love her to bits) just starts talking. She hardly EVER calls our house so I have no idea who it is most of the time.
7: And only call me after 9pm if it is an emergency. Except if you live in another country and then you are excused.