Being Married to a widower and Having adult step kids
I married about 6 years ago, I felt like God brought my husband into my life. After awhile of seeing each other my husband took me to meet his adult kid's. I first met his son he seemed very nice to me. We got along ok. Then we head to his step daughter's house and her husband. When I met them I told them how sorry I was about there mom and that I would like for us to be friends. Well about a week later my husband wanted me to go in and get to know them, while he worked on paper work. I went in and his step daughter and her husband were standing by the fire place I sat down on the couch. They started talking and said They felt I was reaping the rewards of there mothers death and they fill I should be making my own car payment's that I should get a job. I didn't know what to say after they were done I went back out to where my husband was and told him what happen, he said he would have a talk with them. Of course they denied it, said I took it the wrong way. I took it just like they said it. At the time I moved to a different state and was helping my husband with his company. I took my mustang back to ford and handed them the key's. My husband then purchased me another car paid cash.(used) The step daughter and her husband came up to my husbands home on July 4th of 2009 and the step daughter and her husband and I were outside watching the fireworks, my husband was back at his work trailer. So they both want to know how much money my husband has in the bank, if he still has the cds and who's names are on the property going on and on about everything and if they are still the ones in charge if anything happens to my husband, I told them both that its something they need to talk to my husband about. There is so much I could list here. I mean its never ending. I have stayed because I love my husband very much and is why I have put up with it for so long. I have never let my kids behave this way and they know it. So why do I have to put up with his kids BS. I sometimes wonder how he would feel if the shoe was on the other foot, if it were my kids creating all this drama. I don't think he would put up with it. I understand he loves his kids and I love mine also but when does it stop. My husband will never stand up for me I know this.
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Let his kids think what they
Let his kids think what they want...they are parasites. How does hubby treat you?
They sound like they are
They sound like they are concerned about their dad and for good reason.
What good reason would that be?
If they are truly concerned, they can speak to her husband about it instead of confronting the OP, like she is some kind of gold digger.
How much money he has in the bank, his CDs, and who's name is on the property is really none of their business.
NoraAstepmom, I think your husband should inform them who will be in charge if something happens to him, only so that they will know what his wishes are and cannot later try to claim some BS. When my husband had surgery and he signed the form stating I had the right to make decisions for him, they made us several copies and told my husband, "Give these to your family so they know who's in charge." They deal with people all the time who are trying to usurp the wife's authority.
Do they not have the guts to ask their dad about this directly? They know they are being assholes, that's why they talk to you about it instead of your husband and why they backtracked when you told them about that first conversation.
Real golddiggers don't help
Real golddiggers don't help their spouses with their businesses.
A real golddigger won't do jack to help.
No cooking no cleaning unless it's a bank account.
Sorry just not getting that vibe at all.
I agree. And they certainly
I agree. And they certainly don't give up the new car!
Exactly
Exactly
How disgusting. I'd have the
How disgusting. I'd have the urge to turn it around on them. "How much did YOU pay for YOUR car?" "How many CDs do you have?" "What's YOUR retirement savings look like?"
+++++++++++++++++++++++++
Yes...do this.
I do have to admit though...they are absurd for actually voicing those opinions, but they do seem to be concerned about their father. But you would think after 6 years they would let it go. How long was he a widow before he brought you into the family?
If my parents were divorced, I would not care one bit about my dads estate. BUT...if he were a widow...I would care about his and my moms estate. And no...it has nothing to do with greed.
But I would NEVER question the new spouse. I would question my dad. (and yes...my parents and I have talked about his before because people get old and can be taken advantage of by other people and they do not want that to happen to either one of them).
Agreed. Guilty daddys blab
Agreed.
Guilty daddys blab everything.
I'm also married to a widower
I'm also married to a widower whose children act as though their dad's dealings are their business. Currently they're pissed because they recently found out that the house which is their childhood home is now in both DH and my name. What they don't know is that my house (I don't think they even know I have a home?) is now also in both of our names. DH is getting nasty comments from his kids about the atrocities of "giving THEIR home away to a STRANGER"!
We will each honor the other's wishes after death and everything is in a trust as well and DH also has a Will. I don't yet but the trust covers the important things and the life insurance policies are "self explanatory".
DH's and my wishes reflect the way his and my kids have treated us. In a nutshell - his kids probably won't be too happy.
Ugh, I went through this with
Ugh, I went through this with my Mom, my stepdad, and his evil, money-grubbing, selfish, ADULT daughters.
They resented my Mom for marrying their Dad and "taking all his money" **eyeroll**
He was a kind, generous, giving person, and his 4 daughters crapped all over that.
After he died, they took my Mom back to court to get more money from his estate.
Greedy bitches.