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notabadmom6's picture

From what I understand, from what little my boyfriend will tell me, is that his daughter should be in jail, but he has protected her. (she has "attacked" at least 3 of his friends on FB in the last 3 months, that I know of). These are things his parents see, his friends see....and if you knew him, you would be as shocked as I am. She told my sister that she should have "been aborted". She posted on FB that her father should "keep his ho on a leash & if he doesn't keep her in place, I'll lynch the fucking bitch". She also posted the fact that I was getting out of an abusive marriage, & said "no wonder, I would have kicked her ass too....I hope he hit her good for me". Now, none of you know me, but, I grew up in a middle-class, white-collar, decent home. Was it perfect? No, of course not. Do I swear? Like a sailor. Am I nasty? NO. I go out of my way to be kind to people. I have met my boyfriend's parents, (whom, his ex did everything in her power to keep him away from) & they are WONDERFUL, SWEET people. They just celebrated their 50th anniversary & I have never seen 2 people more in love. AND, they ADORE ME!! his mother cannot stand his ex.

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notabadmom6's picture

That previous info was not the original. They have called me the most vile, horrible things you could imagine (background: He & his wife had been separated for over a year, had officially decided to divorce, she had an attorney & the kids knew, BEFORE we even met). Did I expect them to "accept me"? Absolutely not. Did I accept death threats & police involvement? Again, absolutely not. These people have never even met me. My boyfriends' family (parents, brother, cousins, are MORTIFIED by this). He is retired military & his daughter actually sent him a message, 2 weeks ago & said, "I wish you would have gotten killed in Iraq"...."Do everyone a fucking favor & fucking hang yourself, you worthless piece of shit"....." AGAIN, you do not know my boyfriend, but I do. I also know the MANY friends & his family & I am telling you, there is something terribly, disturbingly wrong with his oldest 2 children.

DaizyDuke's picture

Why can you and your BF not cut all contact with this waste of space? Block her from your FB, set up her emails to go straight to your trash bin, block her # from your phones and politely inform everyone that you don't care to hear about what she is saying or doing so you don't have to hear all of this second hand crap.

If these children are this vile and hate their father and you this much, then it's time to cut them out of your life.

Most Evil's picture

Psycho!!!!! I can't believe the horrible things people think of to say. I guess they are going for shock value, and don't see how ghetto it makes them look, or else they don't care (no pride?).

I vote for cutting them off!! What does your DH say?

Kes's picture

You call your blog "My dilemma" - but this means a choice between options, as I understand, and from how you present what is going on - there is no dilemma - it is very clear that you have no option but to cut these aggressive psychotics out of your life completely.
There is obviously no relationship between your BF's daughter and himself, as she wants him to hang himself, so it all seems very clear cut. Don't have anything further to do with them and report any further threats to the police - printing our documented evidence from FB where appropriate. People have been jailed for making threats on FB, it is becoming common.

Jsmom's picture

These kids need to be cut out of your life. Block them on Facebook and everywhere else. They are toxic.

novemberm's picture

Wow. Even my boyfriend's daughter is not this bad, and she is BAD. I agree with everyone else, you need to get these people out of your life. They are definitely toxic, and you and your bf do not need to deal with them. I do not allow my bf's adult children in my home; if he wants to see them, they can meet him somewhere. I worry about your safety and that of your bf-I would not allow his children near either of you until they prove they have changed. I seriously do not think that will happen, though. They clearly have severe mental issues, and I am sure that he has seen much more than you have over the years. What does he say about his kids?

Also, what is the BM like? My bf's ex is completely crazy, but I seriously think she has attachment disorder that was passed to all 3 kids. They all have the signs. My bf, OTOH, is the most kindest and gentle man I have ever met. He is extremely loving, but none of his 3 kids have any of his characteristics. So, I understand you when you say there is something REALLY wrong with your bf's kids, because I see the same things in my bf's children, especially his daughter.