BM calls on saturday the 4th, asking to see ss2 and ss3. I already had plans to take them with me to my parents for the fourth of july thing going on down at my hometown on saturday the 5th. Well she calls DH at work and asks, he says thats fine. YES IT MADE ME MAD because of what happened the previous time she got them, and how upset she always seems! Well DH calls and tells me that he's going to let her take them for the evening on the 5th and that we will get them back sunday at 11am. Well i told him i was going to call her to see if she would wait until sunday to see them since i already had plans to take them to the fireworks. So i called and asked as nicely as possible she tells me no she has plans and we ruin everything, and how we are no good for the kids and flying off the handle. Even though she was acting completely crazy DH still said we have to let her see them. Alright so fine i dropped the boys off to her at 230pm on saturday then from their i went and met DH for lunch since he was working. We go to subway which over looks a busy road that you have to take to get to the highway, and BM goes by with all windows down in her truck, empty carseats, 3 guys in her truck all headed toward the highway to the next town. Which is known for drugs, and BM uses. We have proved countless times but noone seems to give a shit! even had an officer confirm that ss2 and ss3 smelled of marajuana, we told them where she lived and everything the refused to go to the house but filed a complaint and forwarded to CPS which did nothing. Well we both look at each other and, being the smart ass i am said arent you glad you let her take them today, now the boys are stuck with their pill popping grandma who steals pills from old people ( bm's mom works at a nursing home and has been caught countless times stealing meds from patients, but still hasnt been fired). He could have gone to her house knocked on the door, right to refusal got the kids back and been done with it... but he had to go back to work and i couldnt do it because I'm not the bio parent! So he lets it go, says nothing to BM about it but documents it like that has helped thus far! It just really makes me mad because she just does it to keep the boys away from us as much as possible. I just get so scared that they are going to start hating me or worse stop calling me mommy, I know im not their mom but seeing how i was taking care of them for 2 years while she was m.i.a. (ss2 since he was born and ss3 since he was less than a year) i think it would be really hard for me to handle, i know she says things about me to them because ss3 has repeated some of it. I dont know its just a big fear of mine!! HONESTLY, is it so much to ask that she falls off the face of the earth again? :jawdrop: