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ohiomom2twoandmorel8tr's picture

So last night we get the boys from BM house first time she got them all week, and she had them for 8 hours...

They come back with Flea bites on the back of their leg and both in shitty diapers! WOW, i was livid to say the least and yes i jumped her ass about it!

She doesnt work on Potty training at all, her excuse is the Daycare will do it, ummm excuse me but daycare should not teach your kids to potty! We had SS3 going to the potty then she popped in said he is to young to be potty trained my neiece and nephew we potty trained at 2!!!!!!!!! Its so aggrevating because we have them for a week then she gets them here and there, We have them going to the potty wearing underwear and she lets the TV babysit them and its like they completely forget what they are doing, i try not to yell at them but its so aggrevating they are going to be 3 and 4 in october and still not completely potty trained....

Anybody have any advice how to get them to be a little more independent and just go by themselves when they have to go to her house?!

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ColorMeGone2's picture

Take pics and document, document, document every little thing. You may need it for court or CPS. You're right... they have such a short attention span at this age that they have to be reminded. She's not doing her job, that's for sure. You can encourage them to go when they feel the need, but again, their attention span is probably still too short to remember it when you are out of sight. If it keeps happening, report her for neglect.

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ohiomom2twoandmorel8tr's picture

we document every little thing, and just in 6 mo we have filled a 250page note book!! lol we have contacted CPS but in Stark County, they are worthless they basically told us unless the kids are in real harm or are dead they wont do anything!! As far as the fleas go they said the could do a house inspection but they have to give her 3 days notice which is enough time to have her house bombed, bad thing is she has no pets!! BM BF even dropped them off without carseat i called the cops and because he drove away they wouldnt let me press charges! Its a tough battle but it will be in our favor if i can help it!!

kathleen's picture

It sounds like you are the primary caretaker of these little kids. So, how about telling her what is going on just like you would the daycare. Give her some stickers or whatever you do to make a big deal out of things and tell her how it has been working at your house when you drop off the kids. Share with her if you keep it consistent at both houses you will both be free of diaper duty sooner. Then to lighten the possible defensive move on her part. Ask her to share anything that works on her end and tell her you'll try it too.

I don't know any other way that either trying to work together, or just pick things up when they are at your house. Eventually they will get it.

Gmama's picture

take pictures of everything, they say it all. my friends son came home with bite marks on his face after a visit at his dads. she took pictures, spent alot of money on attorneys and almost two years of fighting she won and her son doesnt have to go back ever again.
you never know when this will play into your favor, keep making complanints, i thought the county has to document everytime a complaint is made???? good luck