My DH knows how utterly worthless his son has been, but hope springs eternal. Just like with his SIL. 

His sister-in-law (his brother's wife) has an adult son from a previous marriage.  He had some horrible years, but finally got involved with AA and was clean and sober with a job for about 4-5 years.  Was in a relationship with a decent woman.  Then he relapsed for some reason.  The latest is that he stole his mother's car, purse and phone and beat her to a pulp.  He's sitting in jail right now.  She's a lovely normal person, but this is her son so I'm sure she's paying for an attorney for him.

When I met DH's son he'd been beaten to a pulp in a drug deal gone wrong.  He literally had a change of clothes and a pair of worn out flip flops - was all but living on the streets,  sleeping in drug flop houses,  but still could find money for drugs and alcohol.  I am talking about the bottom of the barrel scuz bucket.  

SS has found a better class of woman to mooch off of.  Most women eventually run him off with a RO.  DH so wants to believe he's finally grown up.  Leopards don't change their spots.   

But I don't try to convince DH of that.  I just have banned POS SS from my life 100%.

saturday came and went.  adult skids of dh live (thankfully) out of our home. they call him on the phone and suck up to him gushing their undying love and appreciation.  then they hit him up with a request for something like money.  then dh gets this stupid smile on his face and opens his wallet.  a hundred?  a thousand?  no problem.

stores start selling fathers day cards in late april and all of his children are adults and almost 30, yet not one of them bothered to send a card in the post to have it arrive on time.  thankless little a$$holes. 

i am sure they will call him tomorrow to gush about how much they love him and on and on.

dh is hurt.  he mentioned it to his best friend on the phone today after it became apparent no card appeared in the mail.  dh does not expect gifts.  a card from each child would have meant the world to him.

dh now says he will let their calls go to voicemail and reply on monday.  we shall see if he keeps to his word.  in all truth dh has been so mistreated since bm left to marry her lover after she cheated on him that he is really accustomed to the abuse.  he has no self respect on this and i really wish hed locate his set of balls.

all of the skids have jobs but one daughter who makes barely above minimum wage as a flower shop manager after getting kicked out of the military.  dh actually paid her air fare to go and visit her mother.  and now not even a card.

so much for all that gushing love.