This was the first week of doing week on week off with Sd.Plus there are school holidays.Plus I have had some health issues as well.
Anyway, normally sd goes to her grandmother once a week.SO cancelled this since there was a new grandchild born from BMs brothers side(hang on , do they spend the whole week with the new grandchild??unlikely)BM kindy called him and told him that her DH's parents wanted to take SD7 on for a day provided hey get some notice,SO did not call them though either.
Plus there are never any playdates for her arranged- even though I encouraged that so much.
So today I had to take SD7 and BS 8 to another of mine doctors appointments.It took a while to wait so both played their Ipods in the waiting area.When I came out, SD already showed a big pout because she had to wait even though I promised them to take them to the sushi train restaurant after. I didnt feel like that but I thought it wold be a nice special thing.SD pouted a bit again when I told them which plates to choose (there is a huge range of affordable plates ,but also a very few expensive one, so no ones of those please)
Anyway i the end they enjoyed it,I think.
Back in the car and after getting some special ice cream, Sd claimed she wanted to go home straight away even though I told her hat we may had to go to pick up BS12 from the movies, and pouted again that this would be then "another whole day in the car ".I explained calmly tha in a bigger family sometimes there will be time in the car if other family members need a lift.She is a single child, as you can imagine.
I was already a bit cranky then since I just before shouted them restaurant food and ice cream.
Back at home a friend dropped her lovely little boy here and another friend came by after for a chat and a cuppa and SD interfered again into every attempt to have an adult conversation and tried to play the "look at meeee and how cute and important I am" role.Until I told her hat we are having a adult conversation- even my friend mentioned that when she grew up knowing it is not polite to interrupt adults unless there is an important reason.
I completely get that she maybe craves another girl to play with, although she was all afternoon with the boys, who are quite tolerant even though I can imagine they at times would like to play by themselves.
But this constant attempt to behave like an adult and get the adult attention sucks and is exhausting.
SO picked up that I was exhausted after this week but even though I told hm that my own kids suck as much most of the times etc, etc he kind of seem not to understand that his daughter can be a big challenge in this house.
Right now when I look at him.....it looks like he has a little pout now , lol.....
This stepmothering is exhausting, I wish I could get some more tips how to do it better or at least care less about what happens, but it seriously bugs me, especially on days like today.