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Submitted by ouch78 on Sat, 11/19/2016 - 7:17pm

It's so nice to find yet another stepmom kinda forum. Reading forums and blogs have been my savior lately. Life being married to someone who has a kid from previous marriage is not easy. When I met my husband and knew about this, I didn't think twice about being with him. I thought that the only thing important is that we love each other. I didn't know it was going to be difficult. As of now, we only have my SS14 on weekends and most days on holidays. The more SS14 grows up, the more it's becoming difficult. I don't have a bond at all with him. BM is very involved in SS14s life so the possibility of a close relationship with SS14 has been blocked from the beginning. Hubby is very closed and very obsessed with his son. There are times that I don't think I'm going to make it through the end. Anyway, just saying hi to all and hope to find more ladies I can relate to here.

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Submitted by yolo222 on Sat, 11/19/2016 - 7:25pm

You will find many here who are in the same situation as you. It's very hard and we all thought things would be great at the beginning!! I just got out of a long term relationship due to similar issues.

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Submitted by ouch78 on Sun, 11/20/2016 - 10:15am

Hi yolo222. Sorry to hear that. although I understand why it is really hard to stay in this kind of relationship.

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Submitted by CANYOUHELP on Sat, 11/19/2016 - 7:37pm

Adult SKids who reject Sm's are often more devious and calculated than teenagers, even if they do not live in the home. Most of us live with men who are scared of their kids and the kids use it all they can---until the SM catches on to their sick cat and mouse game and says no more...

You will learn you are definitely not alone---here!

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Submitted by --figureditout-- on Sat, 11/19/2016 - 8:06pm

Welcome!! I helped to raise my SD from 5 to 18. She is now living with her mother who had absolutely nothing to do with her for 13 years.

You will find all sorts of advice, giggles, and serious poopoo here.

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Submitted by ouch78 on Sun, 11/20/2016 - 10:28am

hi Charlie.marie, I feel exactly 100% what you just said. You'd think they'd be less clingy with their father when they grow older but no. I bet you I hear "Where's dad?" "Where's dad?" twenty five thousand times in a weekend. I mean, we don't have a mansion, go find him yourself. The stress has gotten worse when he is around and the fights about SS14 is worst too so no it doesn't get any easier. BM is not that bad, she and DH has a good relationship. They are both obsessed with SS14 like they are crazy about him. I get it, they're the parents but DH would be so upset if he doesn't see SS14 for a weekend because SS14 has to spend time somewhere else. It's crazy

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Submitted by Acratopotes on Mon, 11/21/2016 - 2:00am

welcome to ST - I'm the skid hater, I will tell you - disengage from SS, not your kid and not your problem,
you are not wrong for not feeling anything towards him, he 's not your child...

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