You know...i realize that guilty parenting, combatting pas, your mother who decides to become a serial dating lesbian, divorce, etc....can lead to unhealthy kids and behavior.

The one GOOD thing, is that SD has now opened up to my sons and lately to her dad about how she feels about her moms orientation, choices in partners, etc. The girl is struggling a lot...her mom mentioned one day not long ago the possibility of marryign her girlfriend (the one that just cheated on her)...and SD is pretty much disgusted and mad and upset w/her mom about it. NOW...before we go on in a rampage....please understand that some if not most of society still has a hard time accepting this. My bf does his best to just say "we all make different choices-your mom is making hers, I do not approve, but it's not my place to approve and their orientation doesn't make them a bad person' SO in essence he does not make it more negative for her then it already is. BUT I have a BIG feeling that if her mom DOES go to another state to marry-she (SD) may just well move out and go live with dad (HOLD ME WHILE I THROW UP AND BREAK OUT IN HIVES!)-she is very embarrased by the situation or about friends finding out. I DO think that her talking about it is better then her holding it in-I think this was causing a lot of her anger issues...at least she's talkign about it and expressing herself.

OK all this issue aside-this wknd I saw more of her then I cared to-I don't think bf is getting my disengagement or otherwise is pushing me a bit-probably because he figures he puts up w/my two kids all the time...sooooo...

I guess what i question is this....we all know that sd's are just WEIRD>>>>in that they act very infantile for their age "DAAADDDDYYYYY" UGHH my sons always call me mom and dad is dad...on ocassion i hear an affection mamacitas, or MOMMY and a big hug but they don't refer to me as 'mommmmmyyyy' on the regular. THUMB SUCKING -UGGGG
The constant need to stand by dad, be sitting by him commanding him to sit w/her, cuddle w/her, rub her neck, feet, it's like it's a MIX between girlfriend and toddler behavior. I KNOW you women know what I'm talking about lol...and you all know how disgusted WE get watching it.

QUestion is, WHY???? I mean other then they're asses and gross...and dad is guilty daddy (her dad never encourages this behavior-in fact he has plenty of times 'turned her down'....but she STILL continues to be up his ass the entire time-has to be with us following adults everywhere, i literally will not SEE my sons come in from their game/toy room or outside unless it's for food -at NORMAL intervals.

With her she's in/out about every 15 minutes, has to eat ever 30, has to stand by 'dadddy' or cuddle or come out when we're standing outside every time...just the neediness, demanding, whining petulent behavior....what is BEHIND THIS? Like what psycholgical damage/problems...where is it coming from exactly?

Is it attachment issues, lack of control, confusion w/her moms orientation...her mom has also moved a LOT and been in different relationships so little consistency...but I mean I dont' see girls in intact homes ever be so attached and desperate for dad. It's creepy. I get it that she may like him best, but to act like a girlfriend/baby is just WEIRD..there has to be a way to address the 'cause' to this behavior can STOP!!