Need perspective please...
Ok, so things are going REALLY well 
. My bios and I are loving our new place, things are going amazing at work, I haven't even heard for AHH- all is well in the world... except for my commute until the end of the school year. It is currently taking me at least 1 hr 15 min to do my loop from my apartment to kids daycare back to work. Its even longer in the afternoon and traffic really sucks!!
My kids smom is going to have her baby Sunday (ish)- she is being induced. Their dad wants me to bring the kids to his house to see the baby Tuesday night. Here is my thing. I will leave from work, drive 45 mins north, turn around and drive over and hour back south to drop them off for an hour to drive another 30 min north again to make this happen. All with starting my day at 4:30 am and not getting off work until 5pm... I don't want to be a bitch and I am not trying to keep them from their "new brother", I am just tired. Would it be wrong for me to say that if he wants them to come over then he can pick them up at my place and they can stay the night, he can take them to school the next day? That way they get the sleep they need and I am not having to spend 3 hours on the road after working all day??
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I think I'd just explain the
I think I'd just explain the long hours/drive and ask if one afternoon perhaps the next weekend wouldn't be better for everybody. As a new mom his wife may be overwhelmed with additional overnight guess just being released. The new baby by that time of evening is likely already sleeping (soon to get up, eat and snore some more).
It just seems like a earlier time and a later day would be best. It's nice though that ex is excited to have the girls come visit their new little sister/brother. Maybe suggest Skype for a few minutes for Tuesday evening.
I'd explain it to your ex
I'd explain it to your ex exactly like you explained it here. You don't want to keep your kids from seeing their "new brother" but you are not going to wake up at 4:30 am to do so....Your alternative solution sounds totally reasonable (assuming the smom is okay with it).
I know I wouldn't want skids
I know I wouldn't want skids around if the shoe was on the other foot, which is why I think they want the kids for an hour, but it is just too much on me and my kids to have to do that much driving on a work/school night.
Oh, and this may be bitchy of me but I really don't care how she feels about being left alone. He left me in the hospital the day I had DD for 8 hours alone both days that I was there to go to work and when I had BS I got released from the hospital a day early so that he could take me home to go out of town for 2 months.
If dad wants his kids to see
If dad wants his kids to see his new baby, I think it is up to dad to find a way to get the there. I don't think it is your responsibility at all to do all that driving so they can see his kid. I wouldn't word it to him that way, of course, but I would let him know it's just way too much driving on your part and if he can't wait for the weekend then he needs to come get them. You should not be so put out for something he wants. I'm sure your kids want to meet their new sibling but it sounds like it's just not very practical to do soon a work/school night.