BM’s BF sent me a message a couple days ago, we have spoken casually over the last 2 years that he has been involved with BM, and he just wanted to let us know that they were no longer together, and that BM was having SD14 lie to us about it.  Who knows why she thought we would care, but we don’t.  He said he had been wanting to talk to my SO to clear some stuff up.  Started asking why my SO would try to come after HIS income in court?  He never did, was never brought up.  Said BM told him that’s why SO took her back to court, I explained it was to get more visitation, nothing about child support.  He said BM told him my SO did not want SD14, and tried to force BM into getting an abortion, and he couldn’t understand why SO wanted more time with a child he never wanted.  I explained to him that was another lie, they in fact were trying to get pregnant for 2 years and were over the moon when it happened.  He then started questioning all kinds of lies BM was telling him.  He, for some reason, is trying to get BM back, and wants to know if my SO and I would consider sitting down and discussing these things?  I’m thinking NOT.  I don’t see where it would help anything and will only cause more stress for me, since I have disengaged, and this would mean I would have to re-engage again.  I feel like this is their child and BM’s BF and I have no say.  He said we need to discuss the fact that BM and daughter are more like a couple than a mother and daughter, and how they need boundaries.  Again, NOPE.  Nothing is going to change this crazy BM, if anything she is going to get worse.  Do you all agree?  Another thing, BF has informed us that SD14 and BM are in constant contact when SD is with her dad, and every little thing is reported back to mom, often twisted to make SD14 look like she’s being mistreated.  Would you just ignore this?  Not allow her electronics at our house?  How would you feel about this?  And how would you handle it?