So apparently to my husband I am cold hearted but yet I stepped up to help him raise his kids.  Now that his kids are adults I have encountered problems with him.  I don't talk to his kids for the same reason because I don't want no problems but talking or no talking to them, he still continues to say that I am the problem and that I am mean to his adult kids.  I recently had a miscarriage and I felt/feel alone.  When I told him the way I feel, he right away started attacking me about me being mean to his kids and not loving his kids.  But first of all his kids are not mine,  I was 18 years old when I started a relationship with him and at that age we don't know how to be mothers.  I did a favor for him and his family in helping him raise his kids.  I didn't have to but I am not mean.  In my opinion he needs to be grateful because I was raising his kids while going to school to become a teacher and raising my own daughter.  Like common I am young and I was still trying to establish my own life.  I guess I am just hurt by everything.