Heartbroken
Well since we still have to follow social distancing my step son will have a high school graduation but only 2 family members are able to attend. And guess who he will be taking??? Yup not me!!!! I found out yesterday that he is taking his dad and his sister. So were does that leave me??? I thought I was like a mom to them. I have been in his life for 11 years and every time he would get in trouble, I would be the one to be there since his dad was always drunk. When I found out I felt betrayed, humiliated, used, and of course hurt. Then I found out that it was his dad who told him to take his sister instead of me. That felt like if someone had just punched me on my stomach. I couldn't breathe and I felt like a failure. The reason he is taking his sister is cuz she asked and because she missed her other sister graduation because she is in the military. But I think that even though she missed it, it was supposed to me going because I raised him. I have been crying practically all night and day because I feel so hurt. Do you all think that I am overreacting?
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You have a husband problem
I read your previous blogs. They tell a woeful tale of an abusive and absent and drunk man. Not someone who considers you as an equity ilfe partner. You got together when REALLY young. You have much to consider, but first and foremost, consider that your husband has failed you.
Im sorry you have had to experience this, its horrible that you have basically spent most of your life taking care of your family, and it would seem they think nothing of leaving you out of important events. You are considered to me maybe a level aboce the doormat they scrape their mudd off their shoes on.
Your skids did do some disrespectful things, but with the example their father has set, its really no wonder.
I hope you find the strength to leave this guy. Best wishes.
No. It is heartbreaking when
No. It is heartbreaking when we realize that we are a convienient substitute and not the parental figure we tried to act as.
Use this moment to either address with your husband that he would put you in this position after all you have done or move on and learn to keep your distance a little more now you know how they see you so that you can protect your heart.
The kid was in a difficult
The kid was in a difficult position, and ultimately did what his father told him to do. I'd give him a pass. Your husband, on the other hand, is an ass, and an unappreciative one at that. Now you know exactly where you stand in the family, and how much your husband values your significant contributions over the years, which were certainly more than his. You can make your decisions on how to go forward accordingly.