Step Mother:   My current husband and I dated one another in our early 20's now, 48 years later as widowers we meet again.  I having never been a mother nor parent at 69 was gifted with my husbands six adult children.  Now how bad can that be???   These people are not from a divorced enviornment.  Usally divorced environments are emotionally hosstile.  I was quite surprised to experience these types of hostilities within my husbands children.  This has been three years in the making for me.

  Since I consider myself a rebel/renagade in this life but always have been kind and nice to everyone till confrontation arrised.   In other words, I can take care of myself.  Have been Successful with School, Career and Friendships.

 I've decided to divorce myself from this hurtful, hateful, hostile behaviour towards me and my husband.  At 72 yrs. old, toxic will not be my end of life flavour.  Plus, you may kringe at this, but their children are not my blood grandchildren.  I loved them as sweet, innocent wee ones, showered them with gifts and lots of love.  They will not be calling me Grandy any longer but by my first name, if or when I ever see them again.  And Step Mother is an ugly word and I will not be labeled that any longer either........You're probably wondering how the poor husband is dealing, well, frankly, he feels the same way.  They have used him as a "pack mule" all his life with hands out.  He will continue be there for them and see them when ever but without me.  The disrespect they offer him has ended.

So, that is what is happening in my life right now, I don't like it but I ain't taking crap any longer.