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Submitted by peachymom on Tue, 05/08/2007 - 1:07pm

When I first got Pregnante with my daughter, we told SS right away, he even came to doctors appointments with me sometimes. And everything was going good. I wanted to start doing things in the bedroom while I was pregante, to give SS more time to get used to it, but DH wouldn't agree. SS seemed ok with the idea of having a baby sister while I was pregnate. But now, it just gets worse everyweekend. How much extra father son time should my DH be sepending with SS on the weekends? I know some is important, but I know the our daughter would enjoy to come along on some of those special trips too.

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Submitted by happy on Tue, 05/08/2007 - 1:12pm

Selfish. And you are feeling as though the child that you and him created is less important to him. Which is totally understandable. I think you need to sit dear husband down and talk to him about how you are feeling he is being. If he gets defensive then its his own guilt making him feel that way. Does that make sense. Like I said earlier your husband needs to remember that he has a daughter too.
Get your feelings on the table asap before it gets worse and you feel more resentment at them both.
Happy

" make sure you tell the people you love most EVERYDAY.. Its important not only for them to know but for you to tell.. Life is to short to be miserable..

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Submitted by Anonymos (not verified) on Tue, 05/08/2007 - 3:00pm

I am pregnant with my 1st. My DH has been feeling really guilty and scared that his 6 yo daughter will take it really hard. We told her right away and so far she seems pretty excited about it but he thinks that will change. You are not alone with feeling left out when your DH and SS go out on your own. My DH takes my SD out on daddy/daughter day all the time and I am constantly feeling left out, I don't know how I will handle it when the baby comes. You definately need to sit down with him and tell him how you feel. You are a family and it is important for your SS to realize that. Just let your husband know that the only way that his son is going to get used to you and your daughter as a part of the family is to experience more "family" outings. He can still have his father/son time but make it occasional not every weekend and probably not until his son is more comfortable having a new baby sister. One thing you can try (and I don't know how old ss is) is to let him know that he is a big brother now and has a responsibility to look after his little sister. Giving him responsibility may make him more comfortable and let him know that he is still just as important. Good Luck!

~StephMom