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Not Going to Kiss your 21YO Kid's Behind - Admitted Rant

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Submitted by pinkb on Sun, 05/14/2017 - 3:53am

DH,

On the Never-ending Story of “you hate my kid”, you need to drop it. I’ve said this before. This will be the last time.

I’m sure SS21I'm is brilliant.

I’m sure he works his ass off at school and makes great grades (not that I’ve been privileged to see them despite my contribution to paying almost all of his tuition).

I’m sure he’s going to graduate and make 100K/year (BTW, how’s that summer job making $30/h that I lined up trying to help him out work out as it’s already May? Ooops, I forgot... he he had to "think about it")

Next topic:

You went to college with little/no help.
Your brother went to college with little/no help.
I went to college with little/no help.

I’m NEVER going to throw a ticker tape parade for SS21 until he achieves something significant particularly given he had a lot more help than anyone in your family or mine to get through school.

Oh, wait. He’s graduating a year early, right? Ooops. Just kidding. That would be 6 days from now on the 20th. He’s skipping his own commencement to go on your hike, right? RIGHT.

Quit coming down my street on this shit, DH. SS21 and I get along just fine. When he does something extraordinary I will reply in kind. You can kiss his ass all you want in the meantime.

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Submitted by pinkb on Sun, 05/14/2017 - 11:34am

Yep. He had to think about it because he didn't want to move away for the summer (company paid for) because he didn't want to leave his girlfriend at home. There was no reason (outside of a round trip plane ticket) that she couldn't have gone with him

When he was "pondering" this decision I shared with him that he probably had 2 business days MAX before the job was filled by someone else. Who makes $30/h at 21yo without a degree?

He figured it out (6 WEEKS later) but the job was gone. SHOCKER.

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Submitted by pinkb on Sun, 05/14/2017 - 11:47am

Rosalu, I like your thinking. "That's nice, dear" is going to become a regular part of my vocabulary.

And, you're right. My SS isn't a bad kid. Just used to getting absolutely everything handed to him on a silver platter since birth.

Money is out. DH has a ridiculous amount of debt that I'm not bailing him out of again. The tuition for the first 2 years is water under the bridge. Daddy wrote the checks but that was money that couldn't be contributed to retirement or savings or anything this WE wanted to do and at this rate "we" would retire at like 95. Whatever. They took out loans for the last two years. And, there's nothing to say I can't retire and let his ass keep working.

Watching Daddy pay the minimums on his credit cards but paying more than that on the kids has been slowly making me crazy. That together with the fact that kid's not paying his school loans. Daddy is. While SS takes extravagant vacations and spends $150/day snow boarding.

The only reason I'm not certifiably nuts is because of you guys/gals.

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Submitted by pinkb on Sun, 05/14/2017 - 2:10pm

DATE CHANGE!!! No Daddy want's to subsidize until 6 months after college graduation. Good times.