It has not even been two months since judge told BM that she is too much of a friend to SD16---too accepting, too supportive to the point of unmotivating her. But BM decides to pull it again, and I am so tired of DH doing this. It is BM visitation weekend, she picks up SD from school, runs by my house because a book is forgotten, and then wants to hang around to talk to DH. I say NO, can go somewhere else and come back if need to talk to him (in past she causes scenes and have had to call cops when she refuses to leave, so she is generally not allowed on our property).

Instead she calls DH and first, complains that I won't talk to SD (LIE) then asks DH to talk to SD because she has attitude. Excuse me, but we have been dealing with her attitude for months now, why can't you handle one weekend? DH talks to her, but not within an hour, BM calls back and says she is brining SD back here and won't deal with her. DH says he won't refuse her.

Saturday AM, BM calls, talks to SD, who is of course a lot more courteous, etc...So decides she wants to pick her up. SD was supposed to be grounded all weekend at BM due to her rudeness, disrespect etc, but no, instead, BM takes her to a race in the next STATE!!! WHat in the world, do they just never learn---If I had thrown a fit at my mom as a teenager and acted the way SD acts toward her, I would have been slapped, not taken to a race!!!!

THis child will never succeed in life, we keep trying to set rules and boundaries and have expectataions of how to act, but then she gets rewarded for acting rudely. How will she ever get a job?