Been a while since I have been here. Totally had disengaged until last week, when I couldn't help myself----and this happened with only a couple more weeks when my YSD turns 18. She put a "F*** War" bumper sticker on her car. I yanked it off---I mean come on, I have three kids under 10 still in the house, who don't need to read that stuff. I am all for freedom of speech, but you don't have to be vulgar to get your point across.

DH didn't think I should have reacted so quickely. Oh well, the deed was done.

BM had in her head that when SD turns 18, can get her to move there, and then collect CS. BM has been pushing SD to move there, and even offered to "split" the CS w/her. BM thought she could collect support until 21, while SD in school. BM even called CS to see.

DH told BM last week to back off, that SD needs to focus on finishing school. That the most CS she would get would be for 2, maybe 3 months based on NC laws---that she would spend all that money on lawyer fees, and $$ would got to SD anyway. BM didn't believe him. She called CS AGAIN

Could see it coming a mile away. Got nasty call from BM saying "it was legally and morally wrong (what morals for you BM?????) of PH to keep me(BM) from contacting StepDemon last night.SD had no phone to use all night, what if there had been an emergency, she had no way to call anyone. You have no legal authority to leave no phone available." I am sure that DH will have an email and plethora of calls as well.

Been relativley good w/disengaging, which is difficult when DH is the PC, so SD17 lives w/us 90% of time. But last night, just lost it. SD went to talk to boss because DH had told her several times that she COULD NOT work over Labor Day weekend, as we go camping every year at this time as a family, and there was NO WAY we would let her stay at home by herself. SD obviously was hoping DH would change his mind because she didn't tell boss and was scheduled. DH had her go up to talk to boss last night to explain.