Hi everyone.. Thought I'd drop in & say Hey!! Nothing much has changed except the fact that I am still an angry OGAR (but only at his house now)  Yes I'm still there playing the fake it til you break it game!  But I found an apartment w/in my budget & its ready now.  I told him 2 days ago I had found an apartment and he got a little pale and a surprised/scared look on his face but said NOTHING (literally) then proceeded w/ the day as if it was normal.  SMH!  Well, lets back track a bit ~  In a last ditch attempt to salvage something in my marriage I booked a week to a quiet cottage on a small lake w/ a pontoon.  Which is what we used to LOVE to do together.  Prior to leaving I made it very, very clear that if the SD had her disgusting bf stay at the house while we were gone I was leaving.  No arguing, no breaking shit... just plain ol' leaving.  Guess what?  YUP, he stayed the entire time we were gone.  I found out while we were still at the cottage and I was so infuriated I lost it emotionally.  Sobbed and just felt a complete loss of life in my soul. I brought this to my DH's attention and he began to text her (which is the perferred method of communication for the two of them so I can't hear).  Even after he messaged her and said god knows what, I found out she still had the bf stay 2 more nights.  Now I was just PISSED!  So mad I could have thrown a car across that damn lake.  We left early due to some other scheduling conflicts which was for the best anyway.  On the way home he said we would take care of this w/ the SD as soon as we got back. WTH?  Ummm, No "WE" won't!  HE will, I am not dealing w/ SDand her bat shit craziness.  That was something he should have dealt w/ months ago.  So I told DH to do it himself!  Which you guessed it, It never happened!  Still as of this morning it hasn't happened. When I mentioned I was going to have a friend help me clean the couch that was being stored in the garage he asked if it was so we could move it in the house.  I responded by saying "No, I'm taking it with me".  He quietly walked out of the house to work and hasn't mentioned it again.  The car that I gave SD 8 months ago is still uninsured and she is still driving it in my name w/ my plate on it.  This has been a HUGE issue for months.  This could potentially cause me a tremendous amount of financial and legal issues if she were to get into an accident and/or god for bid hurt other people.  Since living in a no fault state, I could even have felony charges put against me if the situation were right.  He will not make her get insurance & get the car legal.  To me that is HUGE, he is literally allowing SD to put my entire future on the line every single day by letting her drive that vechile. Everytime it has been brought up he gets extrememly aggrevated and aggresive toward me.  Never physical but it doesn't make it any less scary.  So w/ the exception of an occasional sarcastic comment I have dropped it.  So now that my apartment is ready, the super scary part begins.. I can start moving anytime but I just haven't... walking away from over a decade of hard work, love, blood, sweat & tears isn't easy.  Starting all over will certainly be an adventure.  Not to mention my own daughter is in her senior year of hs.  This next year is going to prove to be a test of strenghth for this mom.  

Sooo, last night apparently SD told her dad that she has removed the plate from the car, her bf has the keys and she said to tell me good luck finding the title because its locked inside the car.  If I report it stolen and have it towed I will regret it!  That is what the text from SD to DH said.  He didn't stick up for me or even make a single comment back to her.  I again told him I would be out by Labor Day and he said nothing.  O' & BTW, in case you all didn't catch on ~  she hid the car.  SD came home last night driving the bf's truck. I asked SD where the car was he said he didn't know. SMH, what a coward!  

Wow, Can't believe its been a year since I posted on here.  So much has happened, I did end up leaving and got an apt (I hated) quickly found an adorable house (I loved).. but have since moved back home w/ husband & allowed my bio-son to assume the house (@ his expense) that way I didn't have to break my lease.  Everything was going wonderful, bio- daughter is off to college living the fun life she should be.  SD has now had a child, still no job, been living w/ BM.  BM is leaving current husband and SD now has no where to go w/ a brand new baby and NO baby daddy to help.  SD called my BS and asked him if her and the baby could come stay with him.  BS being a hardcore empath said yes... I said HELL NO.  As long as I am the listed responsible party on that lease she will not live there.   Now, the only option is for her and the baby to come back and live w/ me and her dad.  AGAIN?  w/ no job ~  I hoped and hoped that her dad would want to talk to me and address the elephant in the room.  But no such luck.  I don't bring it up because he instantly gets defensive, completely irrational and it creates a tremendous amount of tension.  No one knows exactly what is going on, BD hasn't even attempted to call SD and ask what she was trying to do?  Whats going on?  NADA!  He is taking his normal approach, If I don't acknowledge it then it doesn't exist.  Until it does at the last minute and hell breaks lose.  What a shit show!  I am already on the defensive..trying to figure out what I'm going to do this time?  I anticipated this when I came back so I put some $$ aside so that it wouldn't be such a financial blow this time.  I'm way more prepared for SD wrath this time..or at least I'm trying to convince myself of that. Apparently she is planning to move this weekend or the following.  Only time will tell