Hello Stalk friends :)  It's been ages, but I thought I'd post an update.

My ex has been blocked a while now, we don't entertain communication from him, only exception was 3 weeks ago for the 8 year old's birthday when she called me from her sister's phone.  Chatted with her for a bit, dropped off a gift, ignored my ex, worked out fine.

So come to find out, the house he was in (the one I spent ages finding and payed for up until literal months after I left) is being sold.  So he had to be out by the beginning of this month.  When I tried to drop the gift, he asked if I could help him move heavy stuff into the truck, which I declined, gave FSD8 her gift, told her happy birthday, then left.

So a few days ago I get a phone call from FSD12's phone which I don't notice until later, and I see I have a voicemail, I know she had reached out to me roughly a month ago because she started her first period and panicked and didn't know who to talk to, so I figured it was somethign like that (I called ex's mom and ended up dropping off some pads and panty liners at her house for her in a little bag to keep it discreet becuase she didn't actually want ex's mom or SIL to know)  I check the voicemail.  It was my ex.  He "needs me to unblock him and calllll himmmm so he cannnnn ventttttttttt" he then went into some details.

INstead of finding a place, he moved back in with mommy (I mean really, we all saw this one coming) and had a storage unit,  storage unit got broken into.  All the things he INSISTED he keep during the divorce? Gone.  The TVs (at least the ones he cared about he made a point to grouch about the fskids' being there still), guns (which was a dumbass move in the first place.  idk about anyone else here who may own some, but my guns stay with me wherever I'm staying, keeping them in a storage unit is irresponsible ownership imho), the funiture, his military medals (that's the only one I feel remotely sorry about), etc.

I called my dad a few minutes later.  Asked him if I was a terrible person.  Because I felt zero remorse.  My only thought was that Karma is a b*****.

Other life updates.  I"ve been going on actual dates (not dating anyone though, just casual dates), have been playing video games, enjoying life, and working with my therapist on my slew of mental health issues.  I'm hoping to mostly finish off my kitchen remodel this week and I'm considering what I'd like to do for a career change.

My biggest thing I know I need to do this year is move.  While I love my house, I love fixing it up, I think leaving the area is what's going to be healthiest for me in the long run.