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Sunshine1992's picture

Hi everyone, so it's been a couple months since I moved out and I've still been lurking around the posts here, as the experience I had with my ex boyfriend and his son comes to mind often. I try to be over it but hold on to some resentment. 
 

anywho, the apartment I originally moved into wasn't a good fit, but I'm lucky I've found another one to move into. In the meantime, I'm staying with friends. However, I did swing by ex place now that the dust has kind of settled to see the cat and pick up something I left.  LO AND BEHOLD the stars aligned and ex received a notice from his sons NEW school about him skipping and failing class! Literally IN THE MOMENT I was there. Cue the excuses for the lazy a hole kid, oh, it's all a big conspiracy against him etc, his grandma died, they marked the absences wrong, blah blah blah.  

it kind of pissed me off cause it's liek damn. When is karma going to fall on this kid? But, especially after going through some of these posts I notice how these kinds of dads NEVER actually discipline their sons and expect anything from them. They use them as a coping mechanism for their own un healed trauma which is absolutely disgusting. I guess it will be a long term karma. 
 

so, just here updating y'all. I'm in a good place. Going home to see my 5 siblings after two years (I live in a foreign country) and just content to know that, although I had a hard time leaving this man, I left a lame arrogant AND ignorant douche bag, got rid of his sad excuse of a kid, will never have to think of his ex and her dumb ass family, and hopefully will move on to something else one day. Yeah, things still bother me, like, I wish they would experience karma for what they put me through, but  I'm lucky I have the gift of self awareness and introspection. They'll stay stunted for life. 
 

Wishing everyone a nice holiday and as much peace as can be had in your step lives . 

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Sunshine1992's picture

Yeah, i mean I have no idea. He like scrambled around to get his kid signed up for an electricians course. And expected to have a different result from what he did in regular high school, which was fail every single class except for physical education. I think if he fails the year he'll get kicked out, cause it's trade school. Whatever, not my circus, Not my monkeys, but itd be nice to see in 5 years that karma arrived. 

JRI's picture

I'm glad you're out of there.  Take deep breaths and look forward to your new life next year.  Best wishes!

CLove's picture

I feel kind of lucky in that I get to sort of see how the karma bus is hitting Toxic Troll (bad boyfriend experiences, losing friends, bad jobs, Feral Forger fights)

But I dont get to see the k bus hitting Feral Forger nor SD15.5 Backstabber/Munchkin.

Sunshine1992's picture

Yeah, as long as kids have parents protecting them from the natural consequences of life it's hard for them to get karma. They might always even live their lives thinking they're doing a great job at things and bad things that happen are just other peoples fault. I almost envy that attitude. But, the chickens usually come home to roost. 

Harry's picture

Your ex is actually do something???   If he actually did maybe you would still be there.  It's so good that the whold world is against your ex and his son. LOL 

Sunshine1992's picture

Lol, right? What a dummy I am. I thought he would see oh, more skipping and failing at another school, I wonder what the common denominator is. But no, that would involve full brain development and good analytical skills. 

Rumplestiltskin's picture

I would recommend no more visits to the ex. Steal the cat if you have to, but no contact is the best way to make sure your ex doesn't slink back into your life. Enjoy your life free of his drama! 

Sunshine1992's picture

At the end of the day you're right, it's best to go full no contact and leave this crap behind. He didn't seem to value me that much anyway 

caninelover's picture

Is the cat ok?

Good for you for getting out of that situation.  Don't worry it will take time but karma will get them.  In the meantime you go on to live a fabulously happy life!

Sunshine1992's picture

Yeah I mean they feed her, give her water, ex gives her attention. Neanderthal kid treats her like a toy but he seems to have developmental issues from being dropped on his head by drunk ex and in utero cocaine use.  Also dunce boy doesn't clean her litter box (or do anything around the house) so when ex isn't strung out he does it.
it's a drug and alcohol den that's filthy which is sad for poor kitty but little I can do about that. Sad

 

thanks for your support and good wishes!!