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Submitted by purpledaisies on Thu, 01/30/2014 - 3:41pm

I will buy myself candy or a treat and I normally dont eat it all. So I put it way for later. Then dh will on the weekends we have the boys ask me right in front of the boys if they can have it! WTF? Really? NO that is mine I bought it for me and just b/c I dont eat the whole thing at once like they do dont mean I dont want it later! I HATE that!

I just want to bop him upside his head.

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Submitted by kathc on Thu, 01/30/2014 - 3:44pm

YEP!!!

Since I'm "MEAN" and "HATE HIS KIDS" if I say no, I just hide it now. Much easier. At any given time, there's chocolate in my sock drawer Wink

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Submitted by Shaman29 on Thu, 01/30/2014 - 3:50pm

That is when you grab your DH by the testicles and tell him you like a private word....

"The treats I buy for myself are for me. I do not eat it all at once. It helps me alleviate stress. If you want YOUR children to have special treats, put them on the shopping list and I will buy them or you can pick up treats for them. Do NOT ask me about my treats, in front of the skids, ever again. That is rude, childish and manipulative. The next time you do it I will simply look at them and tell them you're taking them out for ice cream sundaes. Capice??"

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Submitted by Starla on Thu, 01/30/2014 - 4:11pm

Lick it in front of them and gladly hand it over.. }:)

I'm the one who fills the Skids a small bag of candy before they arrive, that's all they get from me. Have you pulled your DH aside and told him how you feel about it and that he needs to stop doing that? I'd set up a code word that means he needs to back off, such as "spotlight". We use that word at my place and so do the Skids if they feel put on the spot. It has helped all of us a lot and Skids know better then to abuse that code word.

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Submitted by StepKat on Thu, 01/30/2014 - 4:17pm

I just tell him no. If he wants the kids to have some kind of treat then he can go out and get something for them. I had this battle with the grapes that I get just for me.

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Thu, 01/30/2014 - 4:32pm

The last time he did it was when we were out so I couldn't hid it. We stopped on the way there and each got something and they ate theirs I didn't eat all of mine as I normally don't. then later he asked if the boys could have it since I hadn't eaten it yet. Um No I was saving it for the trip back! Plus mil was there too which is who we went to see hence the trip.

But I will have to sit dh down and talk to him about that. thanks

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Submitted by ConfusedStep on Thu, 01/30/2014 - 5:39pm

DH doesn't do that (when it comes to skid), but I would have no problem saying no to that. He does have a habit of eating my stuff himself. I've told him many a times, just because I don't shovel it down doesn't mean I don't want it. At least he knows what he can mess eith and what I will rip his balls off over.
What does piss me off is when he "shops" in our son's snacks to send home with his daughter when she visits (I buy the groceries). I decided not to say anything to him, instead I raid his wallet.

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Submitted by Mercury on Thu, 01/30/2014 - 10:24pm

I'm lucky. My premium chocolates stay in the fridge for weeks since that's how long it takes me to eat them. DH's kids don't eat good food of any kind. They eat pizza and chicken nuggets. It grosses me out but at least they don't eat our food.

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Submitted by Goincrazy40 on Thu, 01/30/2014 - 10:35pm

My DH gives ALL of my stuff to SS14 the prince. My mattress pad, good pillows, tv... Food, when I went to go out of town tonight, DH said he was putting my humidifier in the kids room. FML DH! Quit giving the spoiled brat all of my shit!

I will never forget my birthday dinner for two years ago... DH took me out for lobster, my favorite. I didn't finish it all that night. I took it home. I went out of town the next night. Night after, I went to get my leftovers and they were gone. I was pissed! I said where did they go!? DH says, oh I didn't think you were going to eat them, so I did. Now I'm not stupid, I KNOW he gave my leftovers to the Prince while I was away. He denies it to this day. I will never forget that though. I can never have anything.