BM called called to say "I'm sorry."
One Tuesday, November 24, BM was calling my names and making threats as usual. Then, out of no where, on Friday, November 27, BM sends a text "just to talk" and wants me to meet her for lunch. Because of the bad history between us, and the fact that I was spending some much needed time with my family, I declinded the offer. Firday night I called BM back and told her I had a few minutes and asked what she needed.
BM replies, "I just want to talk to you for a few minutes and let you the I am sorry. I have been doing a lot of thinking and soul searching. I realize that I have done a lot of things to you in the past few years, and I want to let you know that I am sorry and I hope that we can move on from this and be better people for the boys. You were right the entire time, we need to try to work out our differences for the boys and form a civil relationship for them."
I have to admit that I was shocked and this was totally out of the blue. I did tell her that I appreciate the appology and I accept it; however, it will take some time for me to forgive. Keep in mind this woman swore that she will do whatever it takes to break up my marriage, she tells my SSs it is ok to do bad things to me (example: on halloween, my youngest SS said his BM told him to find the biggest knife he can and stab me with it), she has mad death threats on my daughter's life, both my parents, my nephews, and myself. She also admitted to the boys that she is the one that burnt down our house last year.
I am thankful for the apology but I do not feel that she means it. The only thing that I could think about on Friday is, What is she up to now? I am still waiting fot the ball to drop to see what she is going to do now.
Sunday night, while talking to my oldest SS on the phone, BM was back to her noraml yelling, cussing, and calling out of my name. But accordong to her she is trying to do better. I DON'T SEE HOW
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She was probably drunk or on
She was probably drunk or on narcotics.
I wouldn't even think about it again........sooooo many of us have written the exact same blog. You hold your hopes up for nothing.
I would advise to "hope for the best but plan for the worst". That way you won't get your feelings hurt.
I agree with Jen. I think
I agree with Jen. I think that if you ever have to see her face to face at an event for the kids, be civil to her, but that's it. I think you should look into seeing if the court can force her to get professional help.
I know that I cannot trust
I know that I cannot trust this woman. She has done nothing but lied and cheated ever since I have known her (even before she left BF). She is pregant, I believe that may try to get me to keep the boys for her on her days and/or try to get me to give her the things that my daughter outgrows.
Anon, we do have a court
Anon, we do have a court order requiring BM to get counseling and professional help. This has been in two seperate orders and she continues to refuse the fact that she needs help. She has been told she is bi-polar by a licensed counselor. I just cannot wait until we go back to court and some of this gets to come out.
Wait a sec, did you say she
Wait a sec, did you say she burned down your house???
Why isn't this woman in jail?
I am proud of you that you
I am proud of you that you handled it very graciously...but with eyes wide open. Although the idea of the apology was wonderful, your right, you can't be sure that she means it especially if she vowed to the moon and stars she would do what it takes to break up your marriage. To get between a woman and her husband is dangerous grounds on which no one should tread. This may be a ploy so that you let you guard down...but like you said you know better and you feel she does not mean it...and probably doesn't. Be civil, be polite to a degree, but have eyes in the back of your head my girl and sonar hearing...some ex wives/girlfriends are just simply vicious and scandalous and have not one shred of human decency
" Faith is a bird that feels dawn breaking and sings while it's still dark"-R.Tagore
Stepmasochist, yes BM has
Stepmasochist, yes BM has admitted to her biological sons in a private talk in her car that she is the one that burned down our house.
Our house caught fire (electrical) on Saturday, Oct. 4, 2008. It started in the boys' room with few things a total loss but tons of smoke damage. We were not allowed to stay in the house or remove anything except pets and family photos.
Monday, October 6, insurance comes out and does their thing. That night someone busted out all windows in the house, puts a chair through the big screen tv, cut several of my clothes (including underegarments), and found my hidden jeweerly box. Jewerly was hidden in the bottom of a box labeled winter clothes. Behind two other boxes in the bottom of my closet. The box was left open in the middle of my bed and all of my jewerly was gone.
Tuesday, October 7 the house rekindled and burnt completely. Back in May 2009, BM told her sons that she is the one that burnt our house the second time. The only regret she had was I was not in the house at the time. She also said one of her friends is the one that went throught the house a took whatever he could find of value.
Because she told two minor children under the age of 16, it will not hold up in court and it is her word (a nurse) against two children.
I'm not saying this to be
I'm not saying this to be sarcastic...but she is one sick individual. I wouldn't trust her as far as i could throw her.
" Faith is a bird that feels dawn breaking and sings while it's still dark"-R.Tagore
That is absolutely horrible.
That is absolutely horrible. She has tried to ruin your lives in so many ways and all she can do is say "sorry"?! WTF?
You truly are a better woman than me, I don't think I could ever forgive something like that.
Rabon, your story is one of
Rabon, your story is one of the worst I have heard. I'll bet she is the one who took the things. Why would some random guy cut up your underwear? She is a felon as well as crazy. I'd put up video security at your house and nail her if she ever comes near it again.
Of course you know this -
Of course you know this - don't trust her after all that-! You know someone told her friend where to find your jewelry?? OMG that makes me so mad for you - she should be in jail.
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"What luck for rulers that men do not think."
Adolf Hitler (1889 - 1945)I would not trust one word
I would not trust one word that comes out of her mouth...... Personally. No matter why she apologized, i would just accept that and not trust her at all.
It probably took alot for her to say it... but proceed extra cautiously in that situation.... she is dangerous.
********She doesn't have to love me or even like me - it doesn't change a dang thing..... So get over it and move on BM!************