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Another Monster Step-Parent.

Rags's picture

Submitted by Rags on Tue, 10/12/2010 - 4:43am

These people piss me off. Any parent that would harm a child pisses me off but I have a significant amount of animosity when Sparents are the abusive parent.

I guess because I am a Sparent and being a Sparent is hard enough without having to overcome the stigma that these ingnorant evil ass holes apply to the Sparent title.

Grrrrrr!!!!

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20101012/ap_on_re_us/us_missing_girl_north_ca...

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PoisonApples's picture

Submitted by PoisonApples on Tue, 10/12/2010 - 8:08am

I agree. Weren't the actual statistics discussed in Stepmonster or was it another book I read?

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Submitted by Persephone on Tue, 10/12/2010 - 11:19am

This is a sad case all around: What if the police would have arrested the SM for the outstanding checks and larceny before the child went missing. What about relatives that have come forward to say the girl was confined to her bedroom and allowed out to eat. Or the neighbors that heard the SM say her swollen and bruised hand was from beating the child and caught the prosthetic? Whatever became of the calls to child welfare agency.

Then of course there is the father who didn't know his child was missing until 2 in the afternoon...after the fire.

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Submitted by aggravated1 on Tue, 10/12/2010 - 10:59am

And just so I don't ASSUME anything, what do you mean by this?

"Honestly, I didn't mention this article because I can see some women on here doing what "appears" to have happened here"

Are you implying that you think there are stepmoms on this board capable of doing this to their stepkids?

What do you mean by this, exactly. I would really like to know.

That's a pretty strong accusation from someone who just went after someone on another thread for "presuming" to know what someone else was thinking/ feeling/doing.

PoisonApples's picture

Submitted by PoisonApples on Tue, 10/12/2010 - 10:38am

Honestly, I didn't mention this article because I can see some women on here doing what "appears" to have happened here.

Luv the mall, you've gone waay too far this time.

That statement was totally out of line, even for you.

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Submitted by skylarksms on Tue, 10/12/2010 - 11:08am

Well, of COURSE we are murderers! We are, of course, the evil stepmothers!

PoisonApples's picture

Submitted by PoisonApples on Tue, 10/12/2010 - 11:08am

exactly

aggravated1's picture

Submitted by aggravated1 on Tue, 10/12/2010 - 11:54am

I asked you what you meant. You are so quick to respond to anything else I have written, why not that question?

What did you mean?
You are lurking around starting fires on a board where stepparents vent, and it seems TO ME that you just basically accused posters on here of being capable of murdering or badly mistreating their stepchildren.

Is that what that means, or is there some other explanation for making such an inflammatory comment?

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Submitted by aggravated1 on Tue, 10/12/2010 - 10:48am

I hold the father more at fault than the stepmom, for how that little girl was treated.
Where the hell was HE when all this was going on? He is the biological father, it is his responsibility more than ANYONE's to make sure his child is not being mistreated.

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Submitted by Persephone on Tue, 10/12/2010 - 11:36am

This case seems very different than the Kyron Horman case(the 4-month missing 7-yr old from Portland Or.)In that case no one, except the BM parents, blame the father for bringing the SM in to Kyron's life. In fact, the bio-parents receive very little negative talk-back. In that case the bio-parents noticeably absent from the boy's life left all the care to the SM, who by all accounts from neighbors, relatives, friends, customers, and even ex-husbands paint a picture of a doting mother--the real mother of the boy.

This is a case that should scare all of us SPs: anyone of us could be the last KNOWN person to see the kids off in the morning.

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Submitted by aggravated1 on Tue, 10/12/2010 - 11:50am

Because I am not arguing with you. I like to use logic and reasoning, and that is not your area of expertise in debating. It seems to be a fruitless endeavor.

I will answer with this: if THAT many people say there were THAT many problems, then how in the HELL did the dad not know what was going on? Are you seriously going to use that as your argument? If so, see above paragraph.

And as far as what I think, well, you know, that is what I think. That is my opinion. We are all entitled to it. What's the matter?
You don't like it when it applies to you? of course not. Your hypocrisy rears its ugly head once again. Sigh.

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Submitted by aggravated1 on Tue, 10/12/2010 - 12:09pm

See what I mean? Out of everything I wrote, that is what you got out of it. Consider me schooled, if that makes you feel any better, LOL.

But remember earlier today when I said I would like to see just one post where someone isn't telling someone how they should have said something better? And you responded that you weren't doing that? And I said why do you assume it was you? Well, now it IS you. See how that works? I am much amused at how you just keep FALLING into it like you do.

I refuse to have a battle of wits with an unarmed person. I kind of expected better. Ah well. perhaps some caffeine would help you?

PoisonApples's picture

Submitted by PoisonApples on Tue, 10/12/2010 - 12:11pm

What you did was take something you have no personal knowledge of and state as fact.

I can't believe what I'm reading. That's exactly what you do in about every second post where you start accusing people of hating their skids, of being miserable, blah, blah, blah

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Tue, 10/12/2010 - 12:12pm

Think about it no one here did this as everyone that comes here is asking for help with their skids and the situations they are in. IF this step mom did this she would NOT have come to a place like this. Common sense!

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Submitted by lifeisshort on Tue, 10/12/2010 - 7:08pm

The stepmom has confessed to writing a "ransom note." This is now a homicide investigation. Others who knew this family have said that this stepmom made life an absolute hell for this little girl and thought something like this might happen to the little girl.
No child deserves to be treated like this. I don't care how hard it is for the adult to deal with.

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Submitted by Stick on Tue, 10/12/2010 - 7:41pm

Assume away DPW. If the father didn't have anything to do with the actual murder / disappearance, he is going to have to live with his compliance for the rest of his life. And the same with the neighbors and relatives. It is very sad.

Stick's picture

Submitted by Stick on Tue, 10/12/2010 - 7:39pm

Stepmother or not... this woman deserves to burn if she did this. SHE is the reason we have such sh*tty reputations. And it has nothing to do with her being a stepmom by the way. The woman is sick and twisted and would probably do this to her own child, or any child she could get away with it. She is mentally ill. And, Yes, the father is at fault too for not protecting his own daughter from his new wife. If everyone knew how abused the girl was, then the father knew too.

And I hate to say it, but I thought of this site too when I heard the story - just like the Kyron Horman story. NOT because I think that members I know and read every day are capable of killing their children... but because the accused are the stepparents.

Whenever I read / hear something step-related, I think of this site. This is where I get all of my stepparent support, info and advice - good and bad. This is my only stepparent resource.

Stick's picture

Submitted by Stick on Tue, 10/12/2010 - 7:45pm

I'm watching Nancy Grace right now and I HATE THIS WOMAN. She deserves no mercy.

Stick's picture

Submitted by Stick on Tue, 10/12/2010 - 8:16pm

I've been wanting to see that Swift Justice show. Nancy Grace has a show on every night Monday thru Friday at 8:00pm ET / 10pm ET. Sometimes she gets a little preachy, or fake, and sometimes is downright rude, but most of the time she highlights cases like the Casey Anthony case, the Kyron Hormon caset, etc.

It's on CNN HNL (CNN Headline News Channel)