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If someone is invited to a family event, so is their SO. IMHO.

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Submitted by Rags on Tue, 05/06/2025 - 10:45pm

Thoughts?

I would not question for one bit if I was invited or DW was invited to a family event and the invitation did not specifically name the partner, say "Mr & Mrs", or say "+1".

We would happily show up and participate and let the chips fall where anyone who had a problem with it chose to drop their chips.

Family events (Weddings, Funerals, Graduations,Birthdays, Quinceaneras, Christinings, etc...). If we had the more contentious model of blended family marriage where 

O/T - IL clan (SIL) drama.

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Submitted by Rags on Mon, 04/28/2025 - 10:23pm

My bride is on the phone with her sister. My SIL is the youngest of 4 kids.  

SIL is in tears and just came out to my bride that she is lesbian and leaving her DH for a GF.  Their eldest finishes HS in a couple of months and they are waiting to tell the kids about the divorce after his graduation.  I called this more than a decade ago. DW agreed but SIL was hell bent on not being gay. She is trying to deflect with the stance that she has always known she was bisexual.

Time to come clean.

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Submitted by Rags on Mon, 04/28/2025 - 7:54pm

STalkers,

I have long shared how much of a Unicorn my SParent life, marriage, and my SKid are.  Though foundationally nothing has changed, we have had some setbacks related to our son.  My former SS-32 (approaching 33) who I have raised as my own since his mom and I married a week before he turned 2yo.  He asked me to adopt him when he was 22.  We made that happen.

Earlier this month he reached his 14th service anniversary in the military and is now less than 6yrs from qualifying for full retirement.

Happy Easter STalkers.

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Submitted by Rags on Mon, 04/21/2025 - 12:09pm

We just planted back at home after a spur of the moment 2100 mile road trip to one of our happy places.

My bride finished tax season late afternoon on Tuesday April 15th. For those of us in the USA, this is both an auspicious day and an infuriating one.  Tax day!  For those in the accounting/tax profession it is the day that ends the brutal 80hr/wk tax season that starts in mind to late January.

When something fails the smell test, why keep sniffing it?

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Submitted by Rags on Sat, 04/12/2025 - 6:31pm

Why do we, or why does anyone, tolerate stench?  Whether it is an actual odor, or a speculative odor, if it stinks, pinch your nose, find, and eliminate the source.

Certainly there is some element of the level of pleasantness of a smell is in the nose of the smell-er. However, some things are unquestionably noxious odoriferous emanations.  Noxious people, noxious behaviors, noxious attitudes, etc, etc, etc.

Why keep "smelling" them?

That is the question.

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