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How do parents of on the spectrum children/adults do it? Off topic.

Rags's picture

Submitted by Rags on Thu, 05/05/2022 - 9:11pm

I have shared that my #2 is incredibly good at what he does. However, he is incredibly exhausting.

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When he is on, he is amazing. When he is cycling, it is pure and utter hell.

We have a major turnaround starting at the butt crack of dawn in the AM.  We are as ready as we can be and have contingies in place for the most risky elements.  He was attacking every possible problem nearly all day, and everyone within reach, then... he hit a moment of tantric bliss and for the past few hours has been engaging and pleasant.

How do those of you who have lived this with your kids/skids/GKs/sibs/etc do it.  I have pretty much learned to tune him out when he is on a roll.  Though not entirely effective, it as good as I can currently figured out to run interferance for him so he keeps his career progressing.

He really is that good. But.... I can't have him collapse the rest of my team regardless of how good he is.

Advise is welcome.  Including great booze to get me through until the next day when the crap shoot of what I will get from him starts again.

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justmakingthebest's picture

Submitted by justmakingthebest on Fri, 05/06/2022 - 8:04am

LOL- Great booze helps! 

Honestly as a parent, you just do it. I love my SS22 to death. He has a heart of gold but will drive me up the freaking wall! Some days I just want to scream "SHUT UP!", but instead I say- "That is super cool that you are so interested in ____(whatever random a$$ thing is on his brain today), but we need to get back on track/ I need quiet time/ I have to finish waht I am doing right now, can we talk more later? -- 99% of the time he moved on by the time later comes and isn't in a talking mood anymore.

As for a co-worker, I don't think I could do it if he/she was like my son. Workplaces are not the place for all of the ups and downs and off topics and emotional melt downs. My son was placed in his job by a state agency because he can't handle the real world. The spectrum is HUGE though and there are plenty of people that are on it that do function fairly normally. I'm not 100% convinced that DH isn't on it, mildly and he has had a successful military career. But he is a Nuke, and they are all just "different". 

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Submitted by EveryoneLies on Fri, 05/06/2022 - 11:04pm

I have a coworker who I suspect is on the spectrum too. 

We really didn't gel well. There was just too much resemblance at work and at home (just from two different people). I ended up leaving the place because of the said person. (But also for better pay XD) I think kids will always get more allowance to make mistakes. Once you are an adult, you get the benefits of doubt once and the rest is on you. 

Booze and good friends to vent about the person had been great help for me. I've come to accept that I can't change them. Lol