Yet again the SpermClan breaks my son's heart.

Just finished a great hour on the phone with my boy.  What a wonderful man he is.  Before I get into the latest on the SpermClan... he was given his promotion date for pinning on his E6 stripes.  Nov 1.  Which is at least two months earlier than originally estimated based on his promotion "line number".  He is excited.  He did not even try his usual ... meh .... no big deal downplaying of his accomplishments.  He was notably excited about it. That made this dad very happy.

Then....... we got to the SpermClan update.   The Skid recently spoke to his sister, Spermidiot spawn #2.  Spermidiot spawn #3 has been convicted of a felony burglary charge and has been sentenced to 5 years in prison. He lies to SpermGrandHag about the whole thing so she is all wrapped around the axle about how he is being victimized by the courts because he is black.  Fortunately he does speak to his sister who knows the whole story and she shares it with my son.  Apparently #3 conned SpermGrandHag out of a shit ton of money for bail and a lawyer to no avail and now that money has gone down the crapper. The Spermidiot's goal of a gang banger wannabe life is being served upon his two youngest kids... in Spades.  Oh how I wish it had landed on the SpermIdiot decades ago beyond only his several arrests and misdemeanor convictions. Then maybe his kids would have clarity of the POS that he truly is and taken a different path.

My son, being who he is, was hip deep in the why of his brother's life of crime and the SpermGrandHag's continued facilitation of the abject failures she has raised (her own son and spawn #3).  I struggled with balancing being supportive of my son and his pain over all of this and injecting into the discussion that SpermGrandHag and how she parents is the common denominator in all of this.  My kid gets it but also tends to be defensive of SGH as the only parent his three younger sibs have ever had, and his siblings as the victims of the Spermidiot's crappy character.  He did end that portion of our phone visit with a statement about how SGH just keeps doing the same things over and over again, blowing a crap tone of money on the lost cause of her idiot son and her two idiot grandsons while expecting a different result. My kid of course did not use the word idiot in the conversation though he did go with significantly more colorful language when talking about the Spermidiot's shitty parenting, or more accurately, non existent parenting of the younger three.

Apparently #3 was telling their sister that none of this was his fault.  He broke into and burglarized the house because the people who lived there were going to break into his house and steal his stuff.  In the Idiocy of the collective SpermClan consciousness this kind of thing makes sense and exonerates the crime that #3 perpetrated. SpermGrandHag is on board with #3's delusions.

It really did break my heart.  I know it is hard on my son and his sister when they pull this kind of shit.  I also know it destroys the SpermGrandHag.  She never gets a break from the idiocy of her son or his two youngest.   

The sister is pressuring my son to visit before #3 is incarcerated.  He has no intention of doing that.   The convict has repeatedly made no effort to interface with my son when my son has visited SpermLand and my kid clearly recognizes the heart ache that kind of crap causes  him when he invests his money and time into traveling to SpermLand to visit the SpermClan. Not one of them has ever made even a modicum of effort to visit my son.  Ever.  Yet they, even the decent one (#2, the sister) play the guilt card crap on my kid.  Fortunately he is far too smart and has the confidence to not fall into their bullshit. Though it does all tug at his heart strings.   I told him that if he wants to visit his brother (#3), that prison has visitation days if one happens to align with a time when SS is in SpermLand for a visit once international travel is safe enough to engage in with the whole Covid crisis.   SS laughed.

In other SpermClan news, the fires in the Pac NW burned down the lake house that SpermGrandHag and her daughter (the Spermidiot's younger sister) own, which was another heart breaker for my son.  The few fond memories he has of time in SpermLand with the SpermClan are centered around the lake and the lake house.  He also knows how heartbreaking the toasted lake house is for SpermGrandHag.  

On the one hand I am proud of my son for being a caring and kind person and making some effort to remain in contact with that part of his family, on the other, every time he does I detest them even more for yet again breaking his heart with their toxic bullshit.  Even through all of that, I still find myself having a least a microsecond of sadness for them all.  

Then the 26+ years of their comprehensive toxic bullshit comes rushing back to the forefront of my mind and I smirk with the thought that Karma is a bitch and they all get what they earn with their idiocy.