So,  DW just got off a half an hour call with my MIL. New furniture for MIL came up.  I have been planning on MIL new LR furniture for some time.  No one will actually just do the things they talk about doing for MIL because "she might not like it".  I am getting to the end of my rope with everyone's walking on egg shells with MIL.  

So, I shopped for and found some very nice stylish high quality furniture that is on clearance at a place near MIL's and reserved it for delivery.  I went with dark blue since cleanliness is a challenge for MIL's home.

I have not yet payed for it and made the mistake of letting DW see what I was doing instead of just doing it while DW is at work.   This has been an ongoing thing for our entire marriage.  MIL will let things decline until a problem becomes overwhelming.  She did this with rooms full of recycling, dozens of file boxes of clipped unused and expired coupons, and most recently FIL  having to sit in a folding chair in the hallway while doing his home dialysis and watching TV on an ancient 14inch tube TV from 30ft away.  So when I have had enough, I deal with whatever is at issue. I load recycling and take it to to the recycling center, I dump file boxes full of expired filed coupons at the recycling center, I take loads of old puzzles to GoodWill, and rearrange her LR furniture so FIL can be comfortable while watching the 55" TV I purchased for them.  DW and her 3 sibs all cringe and rant about how mad MIL will be.  I take the "tuff shit and just say thank you" approach.  

Yes, MIL gets irritated but, Surprise!  The house is so much bigger without the rooms full of expired coupon file boxes, countless dozens of bags of recycling,  stacks of old puzzles that she had put together, then taken apart, and marked with the number of missing pieces (she buys them at thrift stores) and the LR set up comfortably so people can visit and FIL could watch a decent sized TV from a comfortable chair rather than being miserable.

I can get $5K of furniture for $1.2K on close out. This is really nice stuff. A sofa, a love seat, and a LR chair.  

FIL passed 6yrs ago and every time we visit MIL comments on how much she enjoys the TV and really likes how the LR is open and comfortable compared to how cramped and cluttered it was.  The furniture is 35 years old and extremely low quality even when it was new. It is now all collapsed, when someone sits in it, their butts basically sag to the floor.

At some point, I will just click the button and let the tempers do what they will do as I have done periodically over the years.

So, do I just click the button and have the new furniture delivered or.... do I abide by DW and her sibs' usual "Don't make mom mad" do nothing paralysis crap?