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Would you do it again?

Raven Emerald's picture

Submitted by Raven Emerald on Tue, 12/03/2013 - 8:23pm

Just out of curiosity; if you knew then what you know now, how many of you would NOT get into a relationship with your SO when you first started dating?

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farting_glitter's picture

Submitted by farting_glitter on Tue, 12/03/2013 - 8:27pm

oh oh!...me me me !!!!!! *jumping up and down frantically*..........this is easy.....HELL NO.....the end...

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Submitted by doll faced sm on Tue, 12/03/2013 - 8:33pm

Knowing what I know now? No way. I'd have stayed single. We could have dated, but when it came time for our relationship to move that next level? No way; wouldn't have happened.

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Submitted by Raven Emerald on Tue, 12/03/2013 - 8:55pm

I'm not a step, only bio. But I can say for sure that if my SO and I break up, I would probably avoid men with kids as if they had some sort of plague. Partly because I have a thing for not liking kids (unless they belong to relatives or close friends, and even then I like to keep some distance), and partly for reading around here. Blum 3

Not taking any chances. Blum 3

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Submitted by silentnites on Wed, 12/04/2013 - 12:44am

No regret, I would do it again. The skids were never an issue, BM was, and it was brutal some years. Brutal mostly for us because we did not engage her. She did what she did, said what she said, and we kept our mouths closed.

I can promise you that if your DH is a decent man there is peace in your future. One day it's just over and the two of you will be alone to live your life. I love my life now and there were many times I considered leaving.

I will say I have the ultimate respect for all of you. It is much harder today with your 24/7 world. I had a land line, no answering machine. I cannot even imagine cell phones, texting, Facebook...what a god awful mess!

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Submitted by Unfreakingreal on Wed, 12/04/2013 - 7:59am

This is a tough one. I love my DH. He is a beautiful, beautiful human being. He is kind and passive and just a good, gentle soul. The drama with the BM and the Skids I could totally do without. He also has blinders on. He doesn't seem to be able to see the evil intentions behind his family and BM. He has been a great Stepdad to my BS16.
I wish he had set his foot down 13 years ago and avoided us all the heart ache and drama that occurred with my in laws and the BM. With that said, I probably would have walked away if I knew then what I know now. I would have stayed single.

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Submitted by SteelRose on Wed, 12/04/2013 - 8:53am

My answer right now is a resounding "NO". But then when ss20 is not homeless and crashed in our home I enjoy my husband and home, so when he leaves in the next couple of weeks I would likely change my tune. We have been through some very, very hard times over the past 4 years and we are now pulling past it all and things are looking up for me. If I took DH and separated him from his kids and unemployment he is a wonderful man. I pray things smooth out over the next 2 years, kids leaving and DH's job being successful and I will be happy.

PS. I do have to add that it's bad if and when you look back to your xh and think you jumped from the frying pan into the fire though. I've thought those thoughts a lot over these past couple of months.

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Submitted by z3girl on Wed, 12/04/2013 - 9:01am

I would never ever do it over again. Unfortunately SD22 and BM are only a small piece of why I wouldn't do it again. On the flip side, I wouldn't have my two children if it wasn't for DH, and I love them exactly as they are, even with DH's genes. If I needed DH to have my two boys, then I guess I would do it again. But for him alone? HELL NO!!

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Submitted by MarriedaBalless... on Wed, 12/04/2013 - 4:07pm

Nope, hell no!

This has been the single most painful and hardest thing I have ever been through and I have been through A LOT.

I still think about getting divorced all the time. Almost 11 years of my life, this has been pure effing living hell. I often wonder what I did in a previous life that I have had to endure such hell in this one - and I'm talking about being a SM and putting up with a spineless husband and a demented twat of a BM.