Backtalk and whining may drive me insane!!
SS7 constantly talks back to DH. Argues about every request made by DH. Cries and whines about everything. It has gotten to the point where we can't sit down at a restaurant without him causing a scene. This week had to leave a restaurant and apologize to other patrons around us who had to listen to almost 10 minutes of crying and whining over a food choice. Ugh, it's infuriating. He has also started getting up at night and crying at the door until DH gives in and lets him watch T.V. or go hang out in the living room. I have demanded that SS7 respect his dad and quite the talking back. DH has demanded it also. Nothing is working. Any suggestions?
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He asks for the "good reason
He asks for the "good reason to cry". That is the least effective punishment we can use. He remembers it for about 5 minutes and then back to misbehaving. I have talked to the therapist about it. He suggests the time out junk and getting on his level. I did try to get on his level but that is easier said than done. I have put the hammer down, so to speak and do not tolerate even the slightest infraction anymore. DH has called me a drill sergeant. Of course DH doesn't understand the laws of jungle. The weak will be destroyed. That makes me the evil step mom. It has taken away any bit of enjoyment I may have once had in my relationship with SS. DH has done better but can't or won't be consistent with it. He is of the mindset sometimes that kids will be kids and to just overlook the disrespectful behavior. I will keep telling DH he has to be just as diligent as me with not allowing SS to disrespect him.
Next time he starts whining
Next time he starts whining in public place have your partner remove him until he calms down. Like partner takes him out puts him in car on time out and closes door and turns his back. Or move and gave your meal at another table - either way not your kid and not your problem
Also when he gets up at night straight back to bed no tv and punished the next day with extra chores supervised by dad
The whining is the worst!
I have four kids, here's what
I have four kids, here's what we did:
1. Whoever acts up in the restaurant goes to the car. One parent goes to the car with the kid (ask waiter to keep the food warm), while the other parent eats with the rest of the kids, then the parent switches out. Naughty Kid gets to eat when we get home. I've only had to do this twice, the kid never acted up again (and yes it was always the same kid).
2. NEVER give in to a kid who does not want to go to bed. Let them cry it out. It's a battle of wills, once they loose the battle a few times they will stop this behavior--always remember that nobody died from crying and that you are doing them a favor by teaching them to be reasonable.
You guys need to get tougher.