This is my new mantra! Thought I'd share in case it brought anyone else the same sense of peace and well being as it is currently bringing me. DH unilaterally decided against counseling for SD10, who really is developmentally behind. He told me after a fight we had and I'm sure he expected me to lose my mind since he agreed to it over a month ago and has done nothing. NOPE! I made a decision to check out. All the way out! I am just going to be supportive of whatever parenting decisions HE makes with HIS kid. If I'm not invested and I can't enforce anything, no sense in upsetting myself all the time. On the flip side, I am also no longer planning my life around SD10's time at her dad's. He can use his weekends to have quality time with her. I will participate if I want, but have no obligation to scrap my plans if they don't coincide with theirs. Going out tonight with my brothers & their wives. No kids allowed. And it's going to be a blast! Stay tuned! I'm hoping I've solved the majority of my stepmom drama! I'll keep you all posted