back story sd21 lives full time with dh and myself she is in college full time does not work and gets loans and grants for college we pay for half of phone and insurance. she took courses during the summer and then went to visit family and friends over the summer. she came back home last week full of attitude, you couldn't ask her anything without being on the receiving end. I came home from work and sd was doing dishes, I put my lunch container on the counter and she washed that also, then we ate and she said supper was really good. she came to visit me at my work for about an hour then we went to lunch and she thanked me and gave me a hug. she was like a completely different person. It is very rarely that I see that side of her.