Vacation
So, the family is going to be taking a week-long beach vacation in a couple of weeks. It is happening a week before SD7's birthday, so DW decided that we would roll that into the vacation as well. So, we are going to LegoLand at the end of the vacation week for her birthday.
SD does not want to go to LegoLand because she thinks she won't like it. She wants to have her birthday at Disney World! And we all know that she should get whatever she wants. Too bad, so sad. We can't afford Disney, so you are getting LegoLand, a nice dinner and cake. I want to tell her to take it or leave it - seriously she has been complaining so much I'm ready to cancel her birthday altogether.
So DW and I were talking about how we are both ready for a vacation and DW says to me: "I really hope SD doesn't ruin the vacation."
I was SHOCKED to hear her say that. I've never heard her actually admit that SD is the cause of a lot of the sour times, but she finally did.
I told her, "Yes, SD is constantly complaining and what we give her is never good enough. Her behavior has been particularly bad lately."
DW says: "I'm going to tell her that if her attitude doesn't change she's not coming on vacation and can stay with her BioDad."
Me: (Doing a little dance in my mind) "Alright."
Several days later and DW has not had this conversation with SD yet... and she's now at her Dad's house for the week. I have a feeling this was just another toothless threat by DW, and one she won't even mention to SD. This is despite her being in trouble nearly all day yesterday, and even one time doing the EXACT OPPOSITE of what I asked her to do - right in front of her mother... again with no consequences other than a "talking to."
So now I know it's never going to happen. We'll go on this vacation and SD will whine and complain the entire time and generally make us all unhappy. Sounds relaxing (sarcasm). Maybe I should just stay home.
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That's my feeling as well.
That's my feeling as well. Sure we can have cake and ice cream at home or something, but if she keeps acting like a fool, she is not entitled to a party, or a trip to LegoLand, or whatever.
Good idea, maybe when SD is
Good idea, maybe when SD is here next week I will do just that.
WEll, we have a BS3 too... so
WEll, we have a BS3 too... so he'd be coming along anyway. WE usually take one kid-free vacation a year as well. This year it will be our 5-year anniversary trip.
We normally take at least
We normally take at least one, if not two, blended family vacations per year. The last one was simply miserable. SD9 is an only child on BM's side and I have BS14 and BS12. SD9 cannot stand anyone getting any attention other than herself and is constantly acting out when we are all together. So this year, I planned a family vacation when SD9 is not with us. DH said he was going to ask BM if she would trade some time with him so SD9 could go with us. I thought long and hard and then finally asked him. "DH, how many times have you spanked SD9 in her life and when did those occur?" He had to admit that he has only done this 5 times in her entire life and each time was during a family vacation and only after she had driven him (and the rest of us) to the point of wanting to wring her neck. So, although he wants his "one big happy family, " I just want a happy family. And no one is happy when SD9 acts like that.