Why can't I feel happy?
So my babes have woke up and looked in their baskets and where's fh and ss11 oh why they are in ss's bedroom fh took his basket into him and they are yet to walk into the living room! I am so annoyed and can't even tell him without an arguement breaking out.(been there done that its not worth it)I can't really vent to anyone else this early and on a holiday! So anyway it's such an empty feeling I moved in thinking I was going to have a more complete fam and this is what I get.I don't even feel like going to church he and ss11 are definantly not going and we are suppose to go to his moms house in 2 1/2 hours fh and ss are leaving in about 1hr I have to try and get my bc 9,7,8 and myself ready by then and put on a glorious game face! I hate being fake but arguing isn't any better!
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Stay home, tell DH the kids
Stay home, tell DH the kids didn't "feel like" going just like SS didn't fell like joining you in the living room.
Or don't tell him anything at
Or don't tell him anything at all and just don't show up. Go to church with your children and enjoy your holiday together. If he thinks it's okay to seperately "open" baskets and not "as a family" why wouldn't he be okay with you assuming he just wanted to do everything seperately today and he'd just forgot to mention it? I know it's hard and it sucks but if you start "allowing" this behavior from him now it will never change. "put your foot down" today by celebrating seperately and if he's upset, explain to him that's how you felt this morning. If he doesnt care, then okay. At least you get to spend the holiday with your children.
Lol that's exactly what I was
Lol that's exactly what I was thinking!
Oh that is soo tempting thing
Oh that is soo tempting thing is his mother is great and even planned an Easter egg hunt seeing that I have brought three more to the mix his s sis even called yesterdayand said her bs and sd can't wait to play with my kiddos. Ss11 is an ass to ssis's kids so my plan is to let the kids hunt eat and go ss11 leaves today at 2:30 he lives 3hrs away so that gives me 6 hrs w/o fh hip hip hooray!! Fh has slept with ss11 all week lol tonight however I plan on saying something like awe, I enjoyed sleeping alone mind if I sleep in ss's room tonight? Lol
Wait he slept with SS all
Wait he slept with SS all week? Didn't I read that he was 11? Wow no I'd make him sleep in SSs bed all the time!! Why give up your bed?!
Lmao it's so crazy huh!my
Lmao it's so crazy huh!my friends are like wtf! He won't last time I tried telling him to sleep in ss11's bed since likes it so much (obviously )he laughed and said well I just wanted to spend as much time as I could with him. Once I even tried sleeping with my bd9 and I was so uncomfortable and so was she (she likes tolay diagonal lol) that I moved to the couch:) I really think fh brings the worst out of ss11. I don't know why he feels guilty,I mean that's the only reason I can see his reasoning for acting like this!I would love to see how ss acts with his bm I am sure it's not like it is here!
He wants to spend as much
He wants to spend as much time with him as possible? They're...sleeping...that's not spending time together. Im sorry but that is just too weird!! My DH before we were married let his daughter (she was 2 at the time) sleep in bed with him while I was out of town bc be hadnt seen her in a while bc of BM and I even thought that was weird and told him so and It never came up again and ya know...the kids are totally fine. He's 11 anyway, who wants their dad sleeping with them at that age? Whew girl, therapy. That's all I can say!
I had something similar
I had something similar happen this morning too. You aren't weak. You have every right to be upset. Holidays are supposed to be about FAMILIES.
Yay!!! Fh and ss11 left about
Yay!!! Fh and ss11 left about 45 minutes ago.During the family gathering mil had to make ss11 French fries and chicken nuggets everyone with common sense shared smirks (it's like that every holiday)we even had bob Evans catered but .....:)~ other than that everything was good,fh kept hugging me and said I can't wait to hold you tonight lmao really,does he honestly think I want to even look at him intimately? Ugh.... But now everything will be good till the next visit that is! Oh,wait he will actually help me co parent mine. He is actually great when it comes to my kids he knows I am a bit strict and how I am trying to mold my bk's but for some reason he doesn't comprehend my rule of all kids are treated equally and held to the same level bk sk neighbor kid!serendipity5 I have been battling the how to pull him out of that kids ass for years now lol