If you disengage then you're being hostile to the sk's and if you try to interact with them you're being a nag. There is no way to win. Sometimes I think I should just pack up and leave while I still have some kind of life to look forward to. Even when my H catches sd in a lie or has her turn into a screaming shrew right in front of him he still swears she's an angel. I get so sick of it all.