Still trying to be the bigger person...

So, I bought these lovely graduation invitations for SS17 high school graduation. I bought a bunch cause they only came in large quantities (of course). I have a ton left over and in my nicer moments considered being a good person and sharing them with the dumb dumb. Then I thought, well, I will just give her one right before graduation and tell het she could have it as a souvenir. Then I thought I could offer her haf and see of she wanted to pay for half (they were quite expensive). Every time I considered doing anything with them, I came to the conclusion that she would find some way to be snotty about it....so I am keeping them all and she can bite me.

In my not-so-nice moments I thought about sending them to her and to her family from me just to rub in the fact that I am raising her kids and know more about their lives than she does. Buuuut, really we are trying to cease ALL communication with her as I said before. And it is still going very well. Which brings us right back to-she can't have any-bite me!

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Good for you sassy

The fact that you actually THOUGHT of doing something nice for BM makes you the better person because we all know BM wouldn't think for a split second about you.

Unfortunately, no matter what we do, BM will always be rude. In the beginning of our marriage, I would always do favors for BM... pick Blabb up from school... watch her when DH was at work and BM wanted a few hours to herself... buy clothes for Blabb... feed her... BM would still go around, talking crap about me. "Oh, secondwife19? Yeah, she's lazy. She never does anything for Blabb. Oh, and she's a whore."

When I found this out, all favors ceased immediately.

I think it's a good idea that you're not going to do anything that involves BM. The less engaged you are with her, the better.

No matter what we do

They will alwyas trash talk us.

BM used to ask us to babysit (overnight) SD's half sister. I did it once. When she dropped her off, she didn't even say thank you, so I yelled "you're welcome" as I walked in the house carrying the kid.

Well, since I did it once, I would certainly do it again right? Hell to the NO! She asked me to do it again the next week. She tried to be all nice about it and what not, I just said "nope we have a lot going on" and let her deal with it.

Then that weekend, she and I got into it over something stupid she was doing and she tried to have me arrested and have a restraining order put on me to keep me away when she picked up the kids, at events,etc. All because SHE was being irresponisble enough with the kids for me to say something to her about it. She tried to say she was threatened by me and that she didn't feel safe ever around me and she thought I was goign to hit her. So my attorney brings up the fact that 3 days prior she was basically begging me to keep her kid.

Guess who won that trial