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Sharlee G's picture

When do u reach a level when enough is enough. When every morning u open ur eyes and think, please oh please make him find another home. Please let him step out of our lives and leave us in peace. Make him vanish as though he never existed, along with all the tension and anxiety that is created in his berth.
My self esteem has taken a beating, my skin has grown so thick it adorns callouses. My breathing is now shallow and my flame has all but gone out. How oh how, can one person, one youth, one wayward sperm cell cause so much horror in someones life.
How to make a decision that will change the path of both yours and ur offspring. How u protect them from change. Nurturing, moulding and shielding them from all the ill's of the world. U suddenly realise that the biggest toxic influence resides with you, wearing ur soul away like the waves on a beach. Slowly slowly eroding the very grains or ur being, ur emotions, ur spirit.

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Angel72's picture

I read your bio....i dont know much detail about your situation but with the little facts i know, you've been with your dh for almost 14 years...been married for 8 and have a 17 year old causing havoc.
I think when a level of enough is enough has been reached, and for the sake of your other kids involved, if your ss17 is introducing drugs and other serious issues that does affect your kids, his half siblings, then he must be removed. Regardless ofthe love you and yoru dh may have for him, no family shall suffer due to one person. Especially if you have tried to help, put him in counciling , have punished him according....
this also depends on your dh. If he allows his son to wreck his own family then its your husbands fault. Not yoru ss. Cause a chidl can act out all he likes, but if the paretn allows him to do so out of fear and sacrifices his new family and wife , the expense is too high. Then the decision falls on you to change this situation. And most woman pick up and go.
I'm following 3 sites and in the last 2 months of reading, 9 woman have begun or already have chosen to drop their significant other because of their lack of understanding and their lack to control the situation.
You do sound like you are at the end of your rope. I'm going to ask the question the opens pandoras box. What has your ss done?

prayerhelps's picture

I think with any Teen, we can all feel this way at times. Teens are hard to deal with, and even more so when that teen is a step, so not your own.

hang in there. Thinking of you and your situation