SD15 choosing not to come this weekend
This is the first weekend since DH told SD15 he would no longer force her to come over on scheduled weekends. She has chosen not to come this weekend. It's fine with me, but I can tell DH is a little bothered by it. DH did try to text her midweek to say hi, but the message was not delivered. Not sure if BM smartened up and cut her phone off, or if she just blocked DH. Either way, cheers to a peaceful weekend.
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Of course she is not going to
Of course she is not going to come. She will NEVER come if she cannot have her phone and he gives her the option to not coming. IMHO…he does not want her coming over so that is why he made that crazy rule. He could have just said her phone would be monitored or something. Not that she could not bring it.
No teenager is going to go anywhere if they can’t take their phone.
I agree.. why go to dad's
I agree.. why go to dad's where they can't have their phone while they can stay with mom and do 'whatever'.
I might have not made that a condition at all...or not given the girl an out. If her mom won't give her a good message..it's up to her father to try to reach her. He can't do that if he allows her to stay away.
I do think that you may be
I do think that you may be right about him not wanting her to come over. He most likely needs a break from dealing with BM and SD15.
I should also add that she hasn't had a phone since Dec 2016 and only had it for 2 days when caught sending nudes. She has misused electronics consistently since she got her first ipod at age 11. I personally can't figure out why DH or BM continue to give her access to these devices that only land her in trouble.
Relax and enjoy the weekend.
Relax and enjoy the weekend. See what happens the next time she should come but for now let it go. I agree with Willow about her and the phone. Teenagers love their phones.
Even if she DID come and your
Even if she DID come and your DH made the rule of no cell phone activity during her visits, this would most likely be the last visit. Enjoy the peace and quiet.
....SD13 told us recently (at
....SD13 told us recently (at a friend's BBQ no less!) that she thought where we lived was SO boring.
* Because you know, she doesn't want to be involved in the tons of activities after school, on weekends, and in the summer in our area b/c she's above that *
DH told her, "Well, I've told you before that if you want to spend more time at your mom's you can."
SD13, "...but I'd miss you..."
DH....
SD13, in response to my friend's question about WHY...."There's nothing to do. And there's no 'diversity'..."
1) because she doesn't want to do anything 2) sort of true
I said, "Would you rather go to school near your mom's?"
(We have an excellent middle school and high school in our area, one of the top 10 in the state)
SD13, a look of horror on her face, "No! But I could commute during the week."
Me, "I do that every day you know, take the same route as you, and it's exhausting."
DH, "Yes, if you are with us, you don't have to get up 2-3 days a week until x time. Say goodbye to that with your mom."
SD13...sigh...
LOL. Who knows. I just don't want that to happen personally b/c then we'd have her almost EVERY WEEKEND. DH was surprised but I think he's discussed this with her before.
So now sd12 isn't coming
So now sd12 isn't coming either. She said she would be bored without sd15. DH is definitely bummed out. I know that teens are self-centered, but I still think it is crappy of them. I'd be hurt if my kids did that.
Yes even though they're
Yes even though they're minors, 12 and 15 is plenty mature to understand that things like that are hurtful.