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Submitted by Sistadaz on Mon, 12/05/2011 - 12:00am

Hi I am a stepmother to 3 boys to one BM and a girl to another BM. None of which live with us but come to stay every second weekend. Now me and my partner are pregnant and due New Years Eve! I wonder if he will leave me too. He dosnt let me talk to either BM. He only told me aout the daughter about 7 months ago when i was already pregnant. I have welcomed all of the children into my life and have good relationships with all the children.
Lately if i talk to my partner about any of the children it ends up in a fight. I find that whenever we have the children he seems to get drunk and i am left to look after them and drive them places. I am finding it hard to cope with the idea of looking after all the kids while going into labour and over the most stressful christmas period. I dont feel like i signed up for this much responsibility. PLEASE HELP

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Submitted by Kes on Mon, 12/05/2011 - 2:51am

If I were you I would refuse to have any of your SKIDS for Xmas, as if this is your first baby, it could arrive any time, and it is not practical for you to have them.
Plus he should be doing the majority of the parenting of HIS children at all times - it is not on to leave you caring for them and get drunk. Unless this stops I would refuse to have them at all, or arrange to go away and stay with relations while they are with you. Both things are extreme solutions to the situation, but seriously, he is is treating you like an unpaid babysitter and this has got to stop.