What BM doesn't. But it's driving me nuts and it has nothing to do with me. She won't let BF do anything. BF is not a rocket scientist but he is smarter than her. What would the harm be in letting him do things? Well I have news for her that is not how it's going to be, thanks in part to me.

It started weeks ago when BF told her that he was going to get half of the school supplies and just to let him know when she gets the list. She called Wednesday to say that she got everything including new bags for both kids. BF went off on her that he said he was getting half and that SS4 didn't need a new bag his was barely used. But she said if you buy for one you have to buy for both, which they argued about. So there was like 2 things on the list that she couldn't find and said BF could get those so. I went to the store got the 2 things and then about half of the supplies on the list. I sent all of it to her house and made sure that SS6 saw everything that WE got him. BM was pissed, but we said were were getting half and you really can't have too many canyons and paints, especially with a 6 year old that loses everything. I am just so sick of her not letting BF help and then whining that she buys everything. So now she can't say that we didn't pitch in.

Then they got into it a week ago because she wants to send SS6 to the after school program at the YMCA, but it's $60 a week, on of the $60 a month she pays to be a member. Plus the day care cost for SS4 who can't go there because he is not old enough. She got pissed when BF said no - at least not on our weeks - because we have him signed up for karate, which also has an after school program and is only $60 a month. She finally got that BF wasn't going to budge then whined about messing up the bus and confusing the school. She said she would call to take care of it but I told BF to call as well to make sure she sets it up right.

Then SS4's teacher wants to meet him before school starts (not sure if the teacher wants it or BM wants it) but BM is working full time now and I am working from home so when she started whining about taking time off BF said I would do it (which I totally would). She agreed but I told BF i bet she still sets it up on her week and takes off work.

She also 'yelled' at BF about owing the sitter money (for like 3 hours of watching the kids - we have paid her now) and then said we needed to let her (and the sitter) know if we were going to use her any more. Because I have been watching the boys. I am waiting for her to say something about that. But we were having so many issues with the sitter and BM. The sitter is her FMIL. This is working better for us but driving BM nuts because she can't call to check on the boys. And last school year she was having the sitter go through their bags and take out what she wanted and tell her what was in there.

Last there is the clothes. BM is always buying them new stuff - like she said if she buys for one she buys for both. Lately she has been buying shoes like crazy, but she always gets the too big. Of course she also dresses them like they are retarded, the first thing we do after she drops them off is change their clothes. The last 2 times she dropped them off in pants in 80 to 90 degree weather. She always brag about how she bought their coats and their shoes but we never told her that we have our own sets that they wear on our weeks. But I think the sitter said something to her now. Because she doesn't brag about it any more or comment that she buys everything for them as much. I got them both new shoes because SS6 never fit (always too big) and she got SS4 some that were so hard to get on. And she brain washes them into wanting to wear her stuff. I don't push it but when SS6 took his shoes off i put them under the bench along with our shoes all week he picked our shoes but when we went to send them back we made him put the others on and he started in on how fluffy and nice they were. BF and I just shook our heads.

She plays mind games with SS6 a lot. Last week she called and BF listened to her when SS6 said he went to karate she asked him "did you have fun or didn't you?" emphasis on the 'didn't you'. Of course he said that he had fun. Then SS6 said that he was staying with me this week and she asked if he was having fun with me or if he missed the sitter. She tossed in that his little friend was going to be at 'Grandma's (the sitters)' house Friday. Which back fired when SS6 thought she was talking about MY mom (who we were going to see Friday). Then SS6 told her that he couldn't go because we had plans. BF had to laugh.

I think BF made her mad when he dropped them off. He had heard throw a friend at work that her man, who had been sick, had a bad case of athletes foot which got into his blood stream through cuts in his feet. The only thing BF said to her was that athletes foot was very contagious. She denied that her mad had that, but the look on her face was one of concern. He just said to make sure she cleaned her floors so the boys don;t get it. I cleaned mine as soon as I found out. ICK!