SS4's IEP meeting was a success for the most part! And BM didn't melt down - mainly because she didn't really understand what happened.

FDH said the BM showed up unprepared as usual while he was ready to go with his list of questions/concerns, folder and note book in hand. The School staff had read the reports that FDH proved them and refereed to them often during the meeting, BM gave them funny looks - not really sure what they were referring to. Should we have told her that we provided them? Probably BTW those reports show that FDH and BM have different opinions of what SS4 can do and basically make BM look stupid.

- They talked about therapy and one woman there actually works for the place we checked into. She explained that the place was really busy and it would be hard to get in regularly like SS4 would need, so instead she suggested continuing to expose ss4 to social situations (as stated by FDH in the reports) - going to library and things were other children are present.

I have already looking into it and made a list of fun things to do with sKids over summer break - since BM and her 'Day Care, aka Grandma Care' won't do much I am packing as much as I can into our weeks. Most of which is at no cost.

- They said (what are have said all a long) ss4 is strong but lacks endurance. And he looks over his glasses a lot. BM tells people that he is almost blind. He just has a pupil issue (cat eyes) and bright lights bother him. I have said all a long that he can see.

- They addressed the eating issues and provided a book which BM handed to FDH. She only feeds him the 5 things that he likes so why would she read that?

- They talked about taking him off of the 'short bus'. BM flipped so they said they would let him ride one more year but they think she should ride with SS7 next year before SS7 starts rides a different bus. That leads me to believe that he has improved to the point that they are with drawling services (slowly).

- They are going to double check Summer School enrollment and see why sKids are getting 'low-income' help.

The over all tone that I gathered from FDH leads me to think that the reports may have done their job in letting the school know what BM is up to and not to believe EVERYTHING that she says any more. I am going to suggest to FDH that we ask for a written note or transcript from the meeting to send to SS4's docs. That was BM can't continue to tell the docs that SS4 can't do things. This is a lot of work but it seems to be working in ss4 favor. The important people are starting to see the light.