Joke was on BM this weekend
BM tried all week to pawn the kids off on us. Usually we would take them but she waited until the last minute (as usual) and we already had plans. I was so glad when BF told her that we would not keep the boys over night Saturday (Yesterday) because I hate this last minute crap of hers. We told her that we would take them trick or treating for a few hours at BF's family.
But BM called Saturday and told us that SS6 threw up his lunch (a TV dinner), so we said keep an eye on him if he is feeling better we will take him later if not we will just take SS4. So when time come BM told us that SS6 was feeling better, up and running around. We believed her and took both kids. Almost to the first house SS6 proceeds to throw up all over the inside of my car and himself. We went in to BF's Aunt's house and got him clean up then TXT'ed BM to tell her that we were bringing him back - she wasn't even at home!, there was no need for him to be out of the house if he was sick. Then SS6 tells us that he had been sick ALL night! Had we known that we wouldn't have taken him, he should have been in bed - which he fell asleep 5 mins after he got in the car so we should have known that something was up.
I told BF that I felt he had been miss informed, just so that we WOULD take the kids so that she could go somewhere, she had to have left right after we did. Joke was on her because we brought them back and dropped both kids off. Since she doesn't watch them if SS6 was sick SS4 would have it soon. They can't keep their hands off each other.
We went back to the house and got ready for our Halloween party. The other half of the Joke that was on BM was the real reason that BF refused to take the kids last night...
He Proposed to me!
While he had planned to do it AT the party he chickened out and did it right before we left. I guess me was afraid that I would say no. 
I did say yes, I know we have some things to work on but I feel 'safer' now. It's official and I feel like we are more of a team. BM doesn't know and I am not going out of my way to tell her. If she figures it out - good for her. My ring is beautiful!
Now we are just waiting for the boys to be dropped off, as predicted SS4 got sick last night. Tonight is going to SUCK but give me 24 hours with the kids and I will have the feeling better.
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Love it! I also have a BM
Love it! I also have a BM that will do anything to get out of watching her only daughter even if it's her only night with her... How sad
Congrats on the engagement!!!! Just stay strong and stay a team!
Congratulations! I Hope the
Congratulations! I Hope the boy feels better soon, and that his brother did not get too sick. Now BM will turn up the heat, it's official! DH had a code with the kids, he'd ask them 'yes or no did mommy tell you to say that?' BM would make SD cry on the phone or have them say they were sick and could not go to school so that DH would go and pick them up, so that she could do whatever she had planned that did not include the kids. The kids were honest enough to tell DH the truth and if they were fine he'd say 'say I'll be there as soon as I can get over' and we'd stay home. BM would keep them from school on the Thursday and Friday if she thought we'd take them on a Wednesday night and keep them until Sunday. Friday was good, after school, go home Sunday in time for school Monday. DH is a stickler for school being 'their job'.
We'd be a no show, the kids knew it and were fine with it, and BM would just have to cancel her plans, too bad! What was sickening to me was the horrible way she did it...why not come out and say I have to be somewhere or do something so can you keep the kids please? When SD fell from her bike and was out of school I did not hesitate to take care of her, sure, bring her over! DH and I will not tolerate game playing like that, you'd think BM would grasp that she was found out in her lies, right? NOPE! We got custody, when they were barely 11, BM abandoned them, and they are now 18, yep, twins...boy and girl.
Thanks you! Yeah I know
Thanks you!
Yeah I know BM will turn up the heat. I totally expect it.
I will say when she dropped the boys off tonight they were both wiped. After a good meal and a hot bath both of them have done a 180. I asked BF if he thought that they asked like that at her house because she doesn't take care of them. Every time she drops SS4 off he is crying, god only knows what she does to him. SS6 said it was because SS4 didn't want to come to dad's. I just shook my head and said that he was tired.
BM is taking the kids trick or treating tomorrow (who knows for how long) We told SS6 about the Engagement, I even let him try the ring on. (I have to take it to get it re-sized) I am wondering if he will tell BM and if she will believe him. I have kind of been setting her up, I feed Ss6 random info so that she never knows what is going on. A few months ago she thought we had gotten engaged.
Congratulation's on your
Congratulation's on your engagement! Our BM is so not into mothering and taking care of the kids when they are sick or need to see a Dr. It's really sad that they can't rely on their own mother's for comfort
Congratulations! That is so
Congratulations! That is so cool.
Don't even get me started on DH's ex - Uberskank.....and her mothering skills. I once posted on here that her mothering skills were only surpassed by the common alley cat.
Oh no, she had to return
Oh no, she had to return home. But she wasn't home when we called her. But we were a good 20 mins away. She tolf BF to txt when we were close, he was like we are on our way NOW.
Congrats on the engagement
Congrats on the engagement SisterNeko! I'm sure it was nice to get a "real ring" this time!
Best of luck to both of you!
Yay! Congratulations Sister
Yay! Congratulations Sister Neko! I'm so happy for you. Our BM is that same way. MOTY who can't seem to take care of her children. She has primary custody but yet has managed not to spend a weekend with her children in over 2 months. Not to mention the lice has returned with a vengeance :/
ICK. Lice seriously? We have
ICK. Lice seriously?
We have not had that (yet) but in BM notebook she put that the kids went to 3 Halloween Party which is GREAT considering they were sick. They were both zombies when when dropped them off.