This weekend didn't exactly go as planned. I woke up with such a migraine this morning i joked with BF that it was because my mind was in over drive.

I guess it started Tuesday really. SS3 had a school thing and BM called to tell BF how it went. She said that she got a certificate but she was going to keep it since it had pictured of her on it and she didn't want it cut up (yeah I had that one coming) but the school had always been very understanding of our situation and usually made 2 of everything. She also told us that SS3 last day of School was Friday.

So BF had me email the teacher, one to find out if the certificate was legit and if it was if we could get a copy. And Two SS3, 4th birthday is on (this) Tuesday and we had planned to send treats in with him to school, which I already had ready. So we asked if we could drop them off on Friday. The teacher responded and said that we could and she would look into getting us a 'certificate' - which turns out really was a montage from the year that had been made on a day that BM had been in class (she is a volunteer). Which would explain why it had pictures of her on it. And The teacher also said that is was fine if I brought treats in on Friday.

So Friday morning, early so I wouldn't run into BM, I went in and left the goody bags with the front office and then went to work. I waited all day for a txt. I knew BM was gonna be mad, and I had asked BF if he wanted to txt her and see if she was bringing something but of course he never wants to txt her, and he said it would be fine worst case SS3 get twice the love on his b-day.

SS3 gets picked up from school at 11. At 1 I got a txt that BF and BM had gotten into it. He said he would tell me later. At 4:30 I got another txt. They had gotten into it again and again he would tell me later (when I got home from work).

So when I got home BF started by telling me why BM called him the first time. He said that BM was mad because she said that the school had called her about the
bouncy balls' I had put in the goody bags - they are a choking hazard, but the package said for ages 3 and up - And she said they had to call all the parents. She bacially made this big deal about it before getting to the real issue. She wanted to know why he didn't call her and tell her we were going to do that, it was HER week and he should respect her as their mother. When he explained that we had planned to do it our week she could have cared less. So he apologized for OUR mistake and thought that was that.

I think her real issues is - that she forgot about it and I didn't. And I don't think the school called her since the teacher knew that I had sent the goody bags, and in the notebook which I just read today = the Teacher thanked me and said how much the kids enjoyed them.

So BM calls BF back. This time she wants to talk about why they don't get along any more, implying that it has to do with me. But BF told her, That he used to just agree with her because he didn't want to talk to her. BM added that she was documenting all of this, included the few times that I forgot SS6's lunch. BF said goo because he has stuff on her too. When she stuttered and asked what he had on her he just said that was for him to know. I don't know what all was really, said - it's just hear say but I believe BF that it wasn't pretty. She basically blames me for all their problems, and she basically wants me gone. Which BF started to discuses "US" with her but ended it with......

"I don't like and and I don't want to talk to you unless it's about the boys. Are you done talking about the boys?"
"Yes"
"Good then this conversation is over."

To that I say ABOUT TIME! For whatever reason she thought for so long that she had some control over who he dated and and I am glad he finally told her that she does not and she doesn't have anything 'on us' because she can't prove that he is a danger to those kids. I really think she thought that he still loved her and that is why she was so mad at him the other week when he didn't take her side - he really didn't take any side.

On Sunday she dropped the boys off, a little late of course. She didn't say anything. But she left a note that said "I Officially want nothing from you." And notebook with some notes on the kids, which I guess BF is supposed to use going forward to communicate the 'little things' and the kicker....

A stack of photos of BF (and HIS family) from before they were married. One of which was of him in nothing but a towel, which was worn funny as if it hadn't been kept with the other images, even had a rip in one corner. All of which was tied with a bow and her wedding ring (which looks fake to me) but not the engagement ring, which BF said was real.

It freaks me out that she not only had pictured of him, but she moved out on him, which means she took them with her and at one point she gave some back saying she took them by mistake. But these she had to have kept in purpose because she knew right where they were, why else return them now - after a big fight.

I feel bad because I start3ed this whole war - though I think it had been in the works for awhile - all because I did something nice for her kids on his birthday.