She can't make the Doc Appt. Next week but she can take SS5 to a school thing this week. WTF?

FDH asked BM yesterday if she needed him or I to talks SS5 to his Kindergarten Orientation (which she didn't even tell us about - we found out online, thank you school website) on Thursday and she said no, she is taking him. It's from 1 to 3. But yet she can't make the eye appointment (he goes to a specialist because and issue with his eyes) that is 3 hours away next week because "she has to work" and just can't take off work. Now grant it she will probably just take a few hours for the school thing and then work late or something, but still isn't doc stuff way more important than school stuff? and when she took her job she said that she had all these sick/vacation days.

We also have reason to believe that BM called the school again and changed all the information so that she is the only one getting information. FDH hasn't gotten anything yet this year and BM got all the school info (and didn't tell us). Like Bus info and teacher assignments. FDH is going to try to go to the Kindergarten Orientation and meet the teacher at least, while there he will give the front office his info (again) and tell them (Again) that it's joint custody and he NEEDS to get all the info sent to his house as well. And we will go to Open house and tell the teacher the same thing, just like last year.

On a side note We went into her house yesterday and looked at the 4-wheeler that we are thinking about buying off her (she said we could borrow it but FDH said no we are afraid it will break and be our fault). First the garage door wouldn't open then the 4-wheeler wouldn't even start. BM then admitted that it hasn't been run in over a year (before she said they rode it all the time) So we left and said we would think about it, I added that it would either be this or a sled to pull behind our snowmobile. Chubby Hubby (Bm's Husband) called us after we left (he was not home when we were there) and said that the battery is shot in it, it hasn't been run in a year and a half, and I am guessing they left gas in it and that gas it no good any more. But they still want $850 for it. I told FDH no money until I see it start and run for a length of time.