Theory confirmed BM does send skids to school dressed retarded
A month or so ago I posted complaining about the cloths BM sends skids over in and it was suggested that these are just for switch days but I have recently been helping out at the school (because I have nothing better to do) and I can tell you that she sends then to school in the same ugly, too small or dirty clothes.
Yesterday was embarrassing! I help out and this after school running club and they had a 'run with a relative' day so DH and I invited FIL and MIL to come run with the boys since BM wants nothing to do with it other than it being free daycare.
Ss8 was wearing his pajama top and white shorts that were so small he spent 80% of his time grabbing his 'guy parts'. And to top it off he had in his slip on shoes that are too small but don't stay one even though DH and I got him tie shoes to run in. ss8 told MIL not to tell me that it was a pj top, but I could tell and I told him that he probably shouldn't wear his pj's to school. MIL made a comment to me when ss8 wasn't around about what he was wearing, wondering why BM would send him in that and no wonder ss8 is telling his their post that he gets picked on at school. MIL called DH last night to tell him that he needs to say something to BM about it. Sadly he has!
Ss5 was also in pj's but at least his fit and MIL like me was pretty sure that the pj's had been slept in the night before. It was a little embarrassing to be seen with them and BM knew that I was going to be there with the in laws. So I made sure everyone knew that it wasn't our week and I did not dress them. When BM showed up to pick them up she was dresses to impressed. I told DH as much time as she spends on her personal appearance, tons of make up and fancy clothes. She doesn't seem to care that her kids look retarded.
The day before was also running club and she dress them both in all black so they could go run in the sun. Ss8 complained and I asked him about it. He said that BM dressed him so I asked if he knew black would be too hot why didn't he say something to her, she wouldn't have gotten mad. He just shrugged.
Any way just a little update on that old post.
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This makes me angry because I
This makes me angry because I admit that there have been times that I have stuck some ugly ass clothes on my kids... for them to play outside in or on my fathers farm, but I would NEVER send them to school or go out with them looking like that. Even if your BM didn't have a lot of money to spend on new clothes, she could go to goodwill and get well fitting, clean clothes that look nice. What a shit mom!
It sucks because she is
It sucks because she is always dressed super nice and she is always buying them toys and junk they don't need but when it comes to clothes for her kids she drops the ball big time. Between goodwill and Walmart bit of which we have in our area she should be able to find something nicer.
We buy back to school clothes
We buy back to school clothes and mid year clothes for the skids, sneakers etc. Where these clothes go, I have no idea.
DH and I had temporary custody of SS10 for a couple of weeks for a CPS investigation. DH had to go buy clothes for SS10 to go to school, as MOTY did not send any over to our house. (She kept telling him it was only going to be a day or two). When DH took SS10 to school, had to meet the office staff, teacher and nurse, they all made a huge deal of SS10 looking so good. The teacher told DH after the first week that SS10 never dressed so well, looked so clean and didn't smell of cigarette smoke since he'd been in the school. DH was pissed....we buy them nice clothes, how hard is it for BM to put them in clean clothes and comb their hair before they go to school every morning???? SS10 is back with BM now, I am sure he is back to as it was before....dirty clothes, dirty kid, messy, and smelling like an ashtray. SMDH
I wouldn't be surprised if
I wouldn't be surprised if she is NOT dressing them at all but sleeping in and letting them get themselves ready. SO's kids will dress themselves sometimes if they get up early and almost always something has to be changed (long sleeves with shorts on a 40 degree day, colors that should never go together, pants and a tank top that isn't even allowed to be wore when it's 80 out) they are 6 and 7. Either way BM is being lazy.
sounds like you've got to
sounds like you've got to teach the kids how to match themselves and check for sizes. They are old enough to start to do a better job with this. you can't control BM but you can empower the kids to take better care of themselves.... they may still not be in good shape at school but it's a start.
I have tried talking to SS8
I have tried talking to SS8 about it but he just says that he likes the cloths BM picks out and that they fit great. So I guess if he is okay with it then I should be too.