Well my boyfriend did what I told him he should do - he called the exwife and told her that (1) he felt the daughter should have a punishment of 2 weeks, no phone (mom took the cell phone, but dad let her use our house phone), no sleeping downstairs with my daughter in her room, no seeing the boyfriend for 2 weeks; and (2) he questioned the mother as to why she let the daughter go to the fireworks with the boyfriend the mother forbidded her to be with when at our house? The mom responded that she gave in that one time (isn't that all it takes?). So, the daughter came to our house after summer school and her father told her of the punishment and she went off the wall - screaming she had already been punished - couldn't go out with her friends or see her boyfriend...she cried and carried on and told him he couldn't do that. She then left when her mom came and told her dad that her mom would be calling him...Now, let's see if the mom back the dad up or gives in and tries to negotiate the daughter's discipline sentence. My boyfriend has a hard time punishing her at all, but when the mom undermines him he loses credibility and told me if the mom doesn't back him up, he is done trying. I told him to stick to his guns and that if the mom does back down, we aren't going to take the daughter when she can't handle her because she is so out of control...This weekend is supposed to be our weekend with her (the mom wanted to go back to making her come whether she wanted to or not - before when she was mad, we wouldn't see her for months at a time until she was made at her mother and didn't like the rules there). Can't wait for the next episode...I'll keep you updated.