so this morning i'm getting ready for work. dd comes to me in a "bragging" sort of way. she told me she had to REALLY stand up for herself yesterday at the bus stop. i asked, what she meant (keep in mind i asked dh and sd24 to go to the bus stop in the mornings with dd and walk her home as well-bus picks up at the end of the eddition) neither seemed to worried about it so had they followed my simple requests this would've been avoided.

so dd explains that her and sd14 went to look at a friends horses like they do every morning before bus arrives....and the jist that i got was that the teenagers wouldn't "let" dd go look to the point they literally picked her up and would not let her down, she said she was kicking and screaming through all this and almost bit them (i told her good) the kicking and screaming caught sd14's attention but they had put dd down before sd could help her. and they ONLY reason they put her down is because she told them she'd do what they wanted her to do - though she ran the opposite direction when they put her down

so i told dd i'd say something to them but that COULD make it worse i get out and told these teenagers after being pointed to them by the other teens to not EVER lay another hand on my dd-and mom will be talked to (i didnt' tell them THIS part)

i LOST IT on dh-he said i guess we need to send an adult out there to keep that from happening. i told him WHAT THE HELL do you think i wanted someone down there for, for excercise?! i told him it's really sad that dd had to go through something like that for HIM to hear me. but instead he and sd24 told me "we know what time she should be home, we give it 5 min after that, no show, we worry" i told him the fact that *I* wanted someone down there SHOULD'VE been ALL he needed to make her walk her lazy ass to the fucking bus stop. but NOW she has no choice, she's got 60 days to get the fuck out of my house and HE will be coming with me to the city EVERY DAY to job hunt. i think he finally understood, i told him if not, she will be taken to a women's center-i'm tired of being told to fucking deal with it!

i think i got through to him, but i told him taht i'm done, the house BETTER start bing spick and span when i get home, i dont give a damn who does it, if it's not done SHE will be the one i yell at-he does do a lot around the house. and that she will start going to bed when we do, get up when we do, no more BULL SHIT!

i did tell him i'm VERY close to asking my mom to come spend a few days with her-and that we are on the verge of needing counseling. i think that's when he caught the hint that i'm tired and fed up with the jacking around