The SD's boyfriend (AKA "the sponge") showed up at our house yesterday..., SD left for night school and he left with her so I thought ok, he was here, but is gone again..., no problem with that. As I was getting ready for bed SD pops her head in our bedroom door and says "just wanted to let you know I was home from school", my wife said to her ok, who is with you?, and she said the sponge was. I said wait a minute, we discussed this, he doesn't stay over here, you don't stay over there, you are in the door every night by curfew. How did that get turned into he is spending the night here again, SD says, you'll have to talk to mom about that.

Well my temp started to rise, thinking that my wife overrode my decision. I then find out that SD, sponge and wife had a long talk that afternoon, wife found out that sponge has been living out of a garbage bag, jumping from friend to friend since he left our house, his mother is a selfish POS and basically doesn't give a shit where her kids are or what they are doing, as long as she doesn't have to deal with them. He doesn't want to, can't or won't (not sure which yet) live with his mom. Anyway, my wife said that at some point in the conversation she told him that if he wants to get his life together he needs a permanant address, SD and sponge took that to mean that it was ok to move back in.

So..., in the wee hours of the morning I told them both in no uncertain terms, I was not happy with this arrangement from the start, that he is not my responsibility, IF this is going to happen, and I stressed IF..., him and her had better start doing something beside laying on their asses all day expecting to live off me and her mom while they play video games and go out with their friends. I told them both that I would think about this and decide whether or not I would allow this again. He spent the night last night just because it was late and he said he had nowhere else to go. I made no promises one way or the other...

So once again I am going to have to be the bad guy, I don't want this kid living in my house, he doesn't belong to me and is not my responsibility. However, I feel bad for him in some way, I know what his family is like and know that his mother doesn't give a shit about him, she is a also a big sponge, moving from one guy to the next, and that has been his role model for his entire life.

I just can't help the feeling that I have sucker written all over my face if I let this kid move back in again. He still has no job, SD doesn't either. The first time they were supposed to be paying rent for him to live here, we only saw two rent payments the whole time he was here because he couldn't find a job, (kind of hard to find a job sleeping till 3PM and playing video games all night). I hate being the bad guy but I don't think I can deal with this shit again. My answer to this right now is no way, tell me if I'm wrong?