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A link to "dear Prudence" about a boyfriend wanting SO to suck on lollipop and call him "daddy" during sex

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Submitted by stepfamilyfriend on Fri, 01/13/2012 - 10:25am

..... And girlfriend is told she is being unfair....

http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prudence/2012/01/schoolgirl_role...

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Submitted by Elizabeth on Fri, 01/13/2012 - 11:19am

That's why you always ASK what the fantasy is first before you make any offers!

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Submitted by youngmama1b1g on Fri, 01/13/2012 - 11:06am

I think the following story about the stepmom being asked to help SD with an abortion with both parents being against it is WAYYY more interesting.

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Submitted by Elizabeth on Fri, 01/13/2012 - 11:19am

Me too! As a BM, if my child's stepmom took my daughter to get an abortion and I EVER found out, the sh*& would fly!

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Submitted by helena_brass on Fri, 01/13/2012 - 12:29pm

I agree. This one really struck me. I don't know what I would do in that situation. Well, I'd probably want to tell FDH, but I'm pretty sure he would freak out on FSD--she'd probably be forced to live with us under house arrest (not that I'd argue), then he'd go track down and threaten/pound the kid who knocked her up. Her mom would probably want her to keep it. Her mom loves babies, plus then her daughter could be just like her.

I have worried about this before. BM's BF has a LOT of young employees, and they all hang out at his house. They're all the same, young roughnecks, charming in a certain bad-boy way. FSD is very smart and a bit prudish, but I could see her falling for one of those types. They're trouble though.

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Submitted by beyond pissed-off on Fri, 01/13/2012 - 11:31am

If the man was truly a pedophile, he would not be asking his partner for what is actually a very common role-play fantasy. He would be seeking out a woman with teen daughters and using them improperly and harmfully. This is a guy looking for a bit of harmless kink. I think the woman in question needs to relax and not be so judgmental. If she does not want to do it, the fine. But don't ask open ended questions if you are not prepared for the answers! One quick look at any mainstream mens' magazine would have prepared her for this one. In my humble opinion, she was being very naive.

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Submitted by stepfamilyfriend on Fri, 01/13/2012 - 11:50am

Well, I think it's good she found out. To me, that would be the end. Should I be silly enough to ask my DH that question, first if all he would not have that kind of fantasy, and the ones he may have....he would tread carefully and tell me why it may not be a good idea to go down that path, even if the fantasies are fairly tame. He is a man.... And I can imagine what some of them could be, but none of it would involve that angle, nor any kind of violence. Maybe it is common, but I still find it sick.

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Submitted by beyond pissed-off on Fri, 01/13/2012 - 1:09pm

No offense intended but please never presume to know what is in the fantasy life of a man. Your statement that "he would not have that kind of fantasy" is not wise. Just because you find something "sick" does not mean that he does. It just means he is smart enough to keep his mouth shut around you.

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Submitted by stepfamilyfriend on Fri, 01/13/2012 - 2:01pm

My DH has never had an interest in young innocent girls. Now, a couple of women at the same time, that is more likely. I know what turns him on and what makes him shake his head. Not all men are alike and what drives one sexually may not drive another. Just like some women like bondage and spanking..... not for me. Daddy and lollipops are not his thing. But if it's your dh's, and you are ok with it..... then no problem here.

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Submitted by stepfamilyfriend on Fri, 01/13/2012 - 2:03pm

Believe me, with all that we are going through with his 18 year old with a 37 year old man.... We talk about this quite a bit.

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Submitted by Anonymous_stepmom on Fri, 01/13/2012 - 4:02pm

I made the mistake of asking my ex if he had any fantasies ONCE and never again! His fantasy was to have anal sex with me. Did I do it? Hell no! That's exit only bud, I would have much rather him tell me this was his fantasy any day!

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Submitted by Anonymous_stepmom on Fri, 01/13/2012 - 5:04pm

This got me curious so I asked SO about it, I asked him if this type of thing is a common fantasy, he said yeah pretty much for most men so I asked him if it was normal for a man to ask the woman to call him daddy etc, he said is it like sugar daddy? I said no, he said I doubt it's like "daddy" you know? I read the article word for word and as soon as I repeated the part where it's quoted about daddy and don't tell mommy he looked pretty much horrified and said the guy sounds disturbed, he said if it was in the pretense like "who's your daddy" as in like a sugar daddy it wouldn't have sounded so bad but he said the school girl/pig tails/lollipop thing is pretty much common.