You ever heard the term jealousy will kill you... Well we may not have to go to court with BM if her jealousy gets her first!

Saturday SS had a soccer game at 9:30. It was BM's weekend to have ss. Well when we get there at 9:30 she is leaving to go get SS something to drink. We walk on over to the game and ss sees us and starts waiving and smiling and doing thumbs up to his dad. SS and H have this signal due to BM and her crap that if we come around and ss does thumbs up things are cool and if he does thumbs down things are bad. So anyway he is doing thumbs up to his dad and waving at us. Well BM gets back with the drink at about the time first water break. SS has come over to me and H and is drinking H's Sun-drop and H is tying ss shoes. BM breaks her neck to get over to us and get the Gatorade open and jerks the Sun-drop from SS hands and gives him the Gatorade and starts asking him how it was going in the game. Well SS gets up and goes back sets down the gatorade and goes back out on the field and BM walks to other end of field we are in middle of field on side line and SS is only 8 so the soccer field is not that big. Well next water break comes and SS comes over to us and gets his Gatorade and is drinking it talking to us about practice the other day and just talking. Now up until this point SS had scored 5 goals and his head was in the game. After he was finished with his drink he went back out on the the field and we looked down BM's way and she was fuming. She looked at SS and told him "Get over here NOW". H and I thought oh boy. SS hung his head and ran over there. BM got down in his face and was letting him have it. SS gets called back out on field. The game starts back up and H gives ss a thumbs up and SS stops dead in his tracks looks at H and gives 2 thumbs down. About this time BM's boyfriend walks up says hey to us and goes over to BM. Meanwhile SS is wandering the soccer field running shaking his head and missing kicks. Head was not in the game. He turns to H again and give 2 thumbs down again. So I tell H next water break meet him on the sideline with his drink and tell him to go to his mom so she does not get mad. So H meets him at sideline with his drink and tells him to go over to his mom so she does not get mad and ss says OK dad. So ss goes over to BM and talks to all of them and then comes over to us and says my mom told me to come stand with yall so you would not feel left out. We both hugged SS and told him that we do not feel left out that we understood and we did not want her to get mad and we loved him and it would be alright not to worry about it. Well he got called back to the game and did better the rest of the time. After the game he got his snack and ran over to us hugged and kissed us both and took his dad's Sun-drop and we told him bye. H and I walk away hand in hand and we get to the car and see SS, BM, the BF, and 2 of BF girls walking toward the parking lot a like a bunch of sore tail cats.

No you see in the story once BF showed up she encouraged SS to come down there to us trying to make it look like he did not want to see us or whatever but prior to BF getting there she got onto SS for coming over to us during water break. Just like whenever she breaks bad on H it is never when BF is around.

So I have mixed feelings about going to these games. BM puts SS through such crap and makes his games so stressful on him when we are all there together. But it is not fair for us to not go b/c of her cause then she wins but when we all go SS has a tore up time. SS will be 8 in less than a month and I admit H and I tell him to do what makes mom happy by like telling him to go over to her at water break we understand but when is SS old enough to stand up to BM? He has never seen his mom so angry as she is when she is upset at his dad. What are ya'lls thoughts on that? When should SS start to stand up to her and say I don't hate my dad or I want to see my dad I love my dad?